Let's rant about boyfriends. 8D

Not easy to find the "right" guy-so many are wrong. And just because a guy is "into" horses-it can be in a totally different way,so still very wrong. If there's that much stress in the relationship-best to go your own way & in the future take things slowly. You have to be responsible for yourself.

I'm not positive if this is out of anger that you currently are feeling towards him, or how you really feel.

If it's currently just that you are angry with the last argument, I'd calm down, then look at the situation and see if you still want to leave.

If this is how you really feel about him, I say get out now. If it's so bad that your hair is falling out, you need to leave.

My bf isn't a horse person but he respects that it's my passion. He'll listen to me talk about them and try to learn so it all makes sense to him. He'll come to the barn with me and look bored out of his mind but get up every morning and do it again. He knows it's dangerous but that it's what I live for. He doesn't even like Mango. He preferred my last mare who was a little quieter.
He rides motorcycles, dirt bikes, 4 wheelers, and little fast cars. He knows I don't understand that and so he explains it to me and I try to learn. I know it's dangerous and don't really like it.
We have never argued over what is more dangerous. It seems like a pointless argument, in my opinion. We both understand it's the other person's thing and respect it.

Mostly, that last spew was just a way to show you don't have to find a guy who is a horse person or a bull rider to have someone understand it. You just have to find the RIGHT guy for you and they will accept it.

No man is worth keeping if they don't support what you like to do, and not just with horses. They don't have to understand why you do it, but they have to respect that you enjoy it and it makes you happy.

No man is worth it if they don't support you, end of story. It doesn't matter what the circumstances are - if he isn't behind you 100%, kick his useless ass to the curb.

A healthy relationship is one in which both people are equal, both in what they give to the other, and what they get from the other. This doesn't mean that your boyfriend has to agree with you all the time, no matter what. It DOES mean that, even if your opinions differ, you should both accept that difference in opinion and still support each other in spite of it.

Stoddard-
I won't say stay or go. I don't know all the details and your situation. I just have to ask though, what makes you stay with him despite this? Just curious.
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My theory is that, no matter how many non-horse understanding boyfriends I go through (and believe me I've had a few!), there's always one man (OK, gelding) that will always be waiting for me in the pasture. If he won't listen to you and respect your knowledge then cut him loose! What is it about guys deciding that they know everything about horses just from watching wild west movies? Tisk tisk.

I cannot tell you to leave or to stay. But as I've told MANY of my friends... you cannot find the right man if your still in a relationship with the wrong man. If you are stressed repeatedly he doesn't sound like the right guy for you.

Writing as an old guy, I'd say you sound too high maintenance. Maybe he should leave.

Another person in a relationship of equals IS allowed to have different opinions, and doesn't have to support everything you do. If someone requires a person to support them 100%, then they need to move where slavery is legal.

BTW - English riding did not come before western. They reflect different riding styles that have both been in place before Columbus.

"Saddles were improved upon during the Middle Ages, as knights needed saddles that were stronger and offered more support. The resulting saddle had a higher cantle and pommel (to prevent the rider from being unseated in warfare) and was built on a wooden tree that supported more weight from a rider with armor and weapons. This saddle, a predecessor to the modern Western saddle, was originally padded with wool or horsehair and covered in leather or textiles. It was later modified for cattle tending and bullfighting in addition to the continual development for use in war. Other saddles, derived from earlier, treeless designs, sometimes added solid trees to support stirrups, but were kept light for use by messengers and for horse racing."

Saddle - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

It's high maintanence to want to not be badgered over the potential danger level of horseback riding? Seriously? She sounds like he's harassing her over it at every chance. As for support, it doesnt mean he has to memorize every little thing about horses! Maintaining a level of civil conversation and polite interest would be plenty for most. I doubt she thinks he should be as enthused as she is. Support doesn't mean hand holding and coddling. Support means knowing the your partner is smart enough to know the risks involved and to make the best choice they can of a dangerous situation comes up. Support means that you cannot harass a person out of doing something they love - even if it has a dangerous element to it. Support means you knew what she was into before you got together so shouldn't expect it to change unless she wants to.
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Reguardless of who is right or wrong, or who is actually high maintainance or if things are exaggerated, we do not have both sides of the story.

Bottom line, do what makes you happy. If he doesn't make you happy then leave. It doesn't matter why.