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    10-17-2012, 07:10 PM
Unhappy Letting go of one horse to get another... Doing the right thing is so hard.

So I already know i'm making a good decision. I already know it's for the best but it still hurts. Bad. Some of you might have been aware of my recent rescue of an andalusian mare. We made a TON of progress, but the one thing I couldn't fix was her rearing. I know I know. VERY dangerous.

Last week Friday when I was riding and she reared up higher than ever before and I slid off the back of her, getting only a few bruises on my tummy and arm it hit me. The realization that this was not a problem I could fix. She's 21 and has a heart of gold. I can get her to do anything on the ground. When she rears it's usually when I first get on and she doesn't want to move forward. Sometimes she never does it and it never happens while i'm into riding just when I first get on and move her forward. Not even while i'm just on her sitting there.

I found a sweet lady who is willing to trade a 14 hand bay QH mare. Anyone can take on trails and she does barrels. She's SO SO SO perfect for me. I'm a little nervous about the height issues since i'm 5'2 but kinda chunky. She weights 1100 lbs so I don't think it'll be a huge issue. Anyways.....I'm trading tomorrow and i've kinda been avoiding the whole idea that I won't see Valida again. I haven't seen her since last week. (I usually see her 2-3 times a week) I just feel so bad. I'm not looking for pity just maybe kind words from someone who has been through this.

If I could afford 2 horses I'd keep her forever and just watch her grow old in the pasture, having fun just brushing her down. But I can't afford 2. I just try to avoid thinking about her right now because all I wanna do is cry. I feel so immature. I'm getting a really sweet new horse and i'm too busy crying about the ...old one.

I know it's right. I know it's smart and I know i'm lucky to have found someone so awesome to trade with. I'm just going to miss her so much. I think of how far we've come and how if she just didn't randomly rear she'd be perfect. But she does....

I'm not really familiar with QH lines so if anyone has some cool info on her that'd be awesome. Her name is Caseys Bar Whiskey.
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    10-17-2012, 07:33 PM
I bet it has to be hard! Its not immature to feel the way you feel or want to cry. I would be crying too. Its tough to say goodbye anf youll always cherish abd remember her and the moments yall had. If you know in your heart its right then it is. Hope tomorrow goes well! :)

Oh... Just curious will the lady be riding Valida or keeping her as a companion?
    10-17-2012, 07:39 PM
She might breed her since Valida is a PRE Andalusian mare she just got an Andy stallion all the way from Cali! Loves the breed. Bred aztecas for a while, is really excited to get into pure andys. She said she's had rearing horses before. I was honest in my for sale ad, told her no bad habits but she rears, never close to going over but one time. She said it isn't an issue.
    10-17-2012, 08:10 PM
That good she got experience with rearing. I guess its ment to be since its working out so well for you and her.
    10-18-2012, 10:25 AM
Green Broke
You are doing the right thing, be strong & enjoy your new horse.
    12-23-2012, 04:38 PM
An old cowboy I know once said, "There are too many good horses out there to keep a bad one." His advice is golden. You think you are attached to the horse you have now, but it is nothing to the attachment you will feel when you get a good horse. Sell her, trade her, give her away. Get one you don't have to worry about.
    12-23-2012, 04:49 PM
Green Broke
Did the trade ever happen?

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