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post #1 of 21 Old 06-26-2012, 06:38 PM Thread Starter
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Letting others ride my horse.

I have no choice as I am not able to ride for the next six weeks or so. I have someone who has agreed via my trainer to school my horse. She is a competent rider, so I am comfortable as far as that is concerned. I am doing her a favor, I know that because my horse is special (!!) and the experience for her will be good (as riding as many horses as possible makes a better rider), but what am I getting out of it? I want to watch when she schools my horse, and feel uncomfortable doing that. Should I stay away when she is schooling my horse? Why do I feel it would not be right to watch, even when I want to? Am I just having a problem "letting go"?!
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post #2 of 21 Old 06-26-2012, 06:41 PM
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If someone were riding my horse, and they will be soon, I would want to feel comfortable looking in from time to time.

That isn't bothersome of you. It is your horse and you wan to be sure it is treate and ridden up to your standards. You have that right.

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post #3 of 21 Old 06-26-2012, 07:40 PM
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You should never feel bad about watching someone else ride your horse!
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post #4 of 21 Old 06-26-2012, 11:15 PM
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This is from what my daughter says. I think it's fine for you to watch one or two times but it can really make a rider nervous when they have an owner/manager stalking them.
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post #5 of 21 Old 06-26-2012, 11:25 PM
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It depends on why you are watching in the first place.
Being protective of the horse is natural.
You can process any negative feelings you have with self talk.
Ask yourself why you are feeling the emotion and if the feelings are realistic.
Just because someone is riding your horse does not mean you are still not in control. Your just not in the saddle.
the horse is still yours. You are just not participating in the training session. Relax. Shalom
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post #6 of 21 Old 06-26-2012, 11:27 PM
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I have been on both ends of this spectrum. I have had others ride Cinny, and I am currently rider another person's horse.

As the owner, I think you have every right to watch at least the first time, if not every once in a while, so that you know your horse is in safe hands. It is also okay to let them know a few ground rules if there are things you absolutely do not want done (example you only want certain tack used, no whips, etc), but make sure they are reasonable rules and be careful of going overboard. Talking to their trainer can also help you with this. But remember that another rider will be VERY nervous having you watch. You can reassure them by telling them to go ahead and treat the horse as they would their own, make corrections the same way (within your any rules you had previously set of course) and that you are only there to observe not "nit pick" their riding. If you see something you don't like during this ride, try to refrain from yelling it across the arena as this can unsettle them. Instead ask them to come over and then politely ask them not to do that thing but tell them the alternative way to correct whatever it was they were trying to correct. Or if their trainer is there, maybe let them know that you didn't like it and ask them to have their student make a change. Also it is good to offer help by letting them know if they have any questions or want to know how YOU respond to a certain behavior or how you would correct certain things, that you would be more than help them out so that they know what the horse understands.

This can actually go pretty smoothly with a good open line of communication between all involved.
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post #7 of 21 Old 06-26-2012, 11:42 PM
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I'd hang around the first few rides tell her what you've been working on and how you get over certain obstacles. Then now and then ask if you can go with her, say you're dying to see her and if you like what you see be sure to tell the rider.
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post #8 of 21 Old 06-27-2012, 02:34 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone! Very helpful! I have never posted on a forum like this and it was a relief to get some feedback. I appreciate it!! The horse-world is not as straight-forward as we might think it is! Certainly it can be emotional!
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post #9 of 21 Old 06-27-2012, 10:06 AM
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Your nicer then i would be. If someone even as much as touched my horse. I want to know what is going on. I would watch at least every time they ride for the first week to make sure they are good at riding. And i would get $ for them leasing the horse.
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post #10 of 21 Old 06-27-2012, 10:16 AM
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The horse belongs to you. You have every right to watch her work with your horse. Especially if you don't know this person well, whether approved by your trainer or not. I wouldn't trust her alone with my horse until I'd seen for myself that she met my standards.

But that's just me. I'm kind of a lunatic when it comes to other people touching my horses. Take it with a grain of salt. Hope everything works out for you!

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