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post #1 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 10:31 PM Thread Starter
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A little distressed about board. half rant

So I have an arrangement with my best friend to pay for her Droid phone on our (my bf and i's) plan in exchange for board. Well as of lately she keeps saying that I'm taking advantage of her.

If we had an initial agreement how am I taking advantage of her?

Nothing has changed. I wish that people wouldn't change their minds every other freaking second.
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post #2 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 10:32 PM
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Have you asked her what she means/is referring to when she says that? It sounds like there are some things that need to be sorted through and resolved.
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post #3 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 10:32 PM
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I have to say, I am not seeing how cell service can possibly equal the monthly cost of horse-keeping/board.
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post #4 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 10:34 PM
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Mixing business w/friendship quite often leads to hurt feelings/ falling outs. A life lesson I've learned the hard way.
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post #5 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 10:34 PM
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That's a really weird arrangement......

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post #6 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 10:37 PM
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What, specifically, was agreed to as the "board" - is she providing housing only or also feed? If she is providing feed is it hay/pasture only or grain as well? Are you doing self-care or is she providing day to day care for the horse?
Have you held true to your side of every part of the initial agreement?(not referring to the payment of the cell costs)
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post #7 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 11:56 PM
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Sounds like she is having second thoughts about the whole thing but why doesnt she just talk to you about it rather than making uncomfortable comments like that? I would sit down with her and go over the agreement, perhaps work out what the cost of her phone is per month (dont know whether its a set amount?) and compare it to the boarding costs that she is covering for her? Perhaps it would just be easiest to say you don't want her feeling that way and that you will pay your boarding costs from now on.
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post #8 of 35 Old 06-07-2012, 11:59 PM
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I think I'd just tell her that we'd pay our board costs from now on and she could get her own phone and cell service and try to salvage the friendship. It's not worth hard feelings which is what will happen if you don't jump all over this.

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post #9 of 35 Old 06-08-2012, 09:25 AM Thread Starter
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It is kinda strange. Well the story goes like this. I was leasing one of her horses(skip) and my other best friend(rex) was leasing her other horse(Chey). And everything was happy and merry til I fell off skip and broke my hand from him stepping on it. I was still cool, I didn't ask for any money or hospital bills paid or anything, but I was out of work for 6 weeks. I had nothing better to do than to just come and hang out at Kat's(Bo) house and play around with the horses. I didn't ride til week 5. Well she had a partial run in stall that was sitting with pig and cow poo and I decided to clean it. And fix and clean other things as well. Let me just note that the (what now is our half of the) barn and big run in had no stalls what so ever and were covered in poo no one ever cleaned them out. The horses only had the 10x15 "big" run in for shelter. In result Kat's dad saw how Rex, Kat, and I really cared and Kat and I convinced him to build some stalls and what not. So now the barn has 4 stalls and a tack/feed room. Nothing fancy but something that will do and keep the horses dry and taken care of. Which I invested a good $500- $1000 in for perks like buckets, hooks, halters, saddle racks, and just other random stuff. Well since Kat had stalls she told Rex and I that we could get horses and board them for $50/month. Turn in/ turn out only. No horse care at all. And for $50/month additional we could feed out horses with the hay they pull off the fields. Which to me is pretty fair considering all the favors done like the traveling I had taken her cross states and all of the other things I had done at that point.
So in all she had a phone plan on someone else's phone plan and it was costing her $90 a month and I told her since she was unhappy she could get on ours in exchange for board. She agreed.

But now she has texted me saying that other people have been saying that I'm taking advantage her and I don't see that I am if this is what we agreed on.

I pay for my horses feed. I pay for all of his care. And I clean his stall. With the data that she goes over and all the other little perks she has for her phone. It costs me about $100 - $130 for just her line. Which I don't mind paying but if this is going to continue I'm thinking about moving my horse.
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post #10 of 35 Old 06-08-2012, 09:28 AM Thread Starter
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And with the other people saying that I am taking advantage of her she is agreeing with.
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