:( A long question about parents not spending on horseriding?
I'm really emotional right now, and I'm actually crying over this.
I've been riding for 4 years now. My parents refused to let me buy my own riding equipment (helmet, boots e.t.c.) until this year and instead made me use the old, stretched, too big and overused boots and helmets at the place where I ride and made me wear the helmets there (a few of which have cracks which I know means they are damaged in some way and could be unsafe). It took them four years to let me get 1 pair of riding boots ($60, cheapest pair of paddock boots) and a pair of jodhpurs ($45, cheapest possible pair we could find). Previously I had to wear jeans.
The place I ride at costs $15 an hour, and basically all you do it ride around a bit, walk over poles (no trotting/cantering allowed) and occasionally trot or canter down a stretch of dirt. Other times we walk around on the horses in the forest for an hour. It isn't a proper riding place, it is owned by a lovely older lady who loves her horses.
I really want to start getting actual lessons and really learning about what riding is about. There are two riding places I can go to that I don't need my own horse for (I can't get one because they aren't allowed in our area and there are no stables close + I don't have the time). One costs a ridiculous $100 a lesson from a trainer who isn't well known at all and seems to overcharge for everything, and the other is apparently closed but has more reasonable prices.
I want to start riding at the other place when it opens, however my parents say they are 'thinking about it'.
Anyway, I got my boots mid last year and they are now far too small for me. I get blisters and my toes get way too cramped. I wanted to get a new pair of boots (tall boots) however when I told my mother that my toes were too cramped in the boots e.t.c. and I asked if perhaps I could get another pair, she started shouting at me for being spoilt and ungrateful and saying that I'm always asking for things.
The truth is I rarely ask for anything. I don't have many good clothes I can wear, and my mother always complains when I need to buy new ones but doesn't have any trouble buying anything for my 8 year old sister (she has huge amounts of clothes and recently got an expensive DVD player and an ipod touch for her birthday).
I absolutely love riding,and I know that without it my depression would be so much worse.
All I want is a cheap pair of tall boots, I'm not asking for a $200 or $400 pair, I'm just asking for a simple $60-$90 pair. I just want to have a pair of nice boots that I can ride in.
I hate to say it, but my mother thinks she knows everything about horses when she doesn't. She is convinced that tall boots are used for dressage only and it would be a waste getting me a pair. She sees no problem when I talk to her about horse forums/sales and complain about photos of kids holding stallions alone or kids on 'advanced' horses bareback with no safety and says that it's because 'they grow up on farms so it's perfectly normal and safe for them'.
I don't want to sound like a brat at all. My parents refuse to spend any money really on horse riding at all and it gets really depressing. I would give anything in my life up for a horse and just want to learn properly so one day I can buy my own.
I know that it isn't money because my parents both work and way more than enough (I won't say how much but my father is a lawyer within the city) but it is just my mother that is always so picky.
Please, please please help me. I love horses so much and want to get the proper equipment (even if its cheap) and proper lessons.
I seriously cried through writing that. Has anyone else had this sort of thing occur, and what did you do?
I can't work to earn the money and there isn't a way for me to get the money at all.