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post #1 of 10 Old 08-19-2012, 01:02 PM Thread Starter
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Losing my horse

Hey Guys,
So today I heard that the horse I full loan and love with all my heart may be bought. She wants sharers so I could continue a share but I've wanted to buy this awesome guy since I met him. He's absolutely stunning and the most funniest and loving horse towards me. I'm heart broken, I had such a lovely day with him today and I could tell he was happy I was back from holiday. I'm hoping I still have the chance to buy him but I guess I needed a little cheering up and to see if anybody has any ideas of how to get over this nicely without being as devastated as I feel. Anybody been through this situation?
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post #2 of 10 Old 08-19-2012, 02:15 PM
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Simply put it, if he was sold to another person then i wasn't meant to be.

If you had the chance to buy him, just think over it and see if that is what you want to do.

Have you ever thought about full leasing another horse?

I had the experience of leasing a horse, but he was never sold from me. At one point he was for sale, but unfortunately he ended up dying from colic. I really, really hope everything works out for you.

If worse come to worse, just be happy with the time you spent with each other and be glad that you got a chance to be with him! (:

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Awh, thank you for that! It really helped!

Have you ever had to buy/lease another horse? If so, was it easy to love him/her the same?
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post #4 of 10 Old 08-19-2012, 02:28 PM
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I went through a similar experiance years ago, and I can only say that it wasn't meant to be and something else will come knockin on your door soon enough.

Years ago I had approached my then instructor to buy a horse... I offered far more than he was worth but I loved him to pieces. I was laid up at home for a few weeks with a severe eye infection and in the time I was away she had sold him to childrens camp. I was heart broken, and soon parted with that instructor as I felt so betrayed. Looking back, it gave me enough drive to travel the world, and made me a better, stronger person. I don't know where I would be now if I had gone ahead and bought that horse.. but it def isn't where I am now.

Look towards the future, and try to stay positive.
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post #5 of 10 Old 08-19-2012, 08:19 PM
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I'm sorry that things didn't work out the way you had hoped. :[ I don't think I could ever lease a horse. There's a good chance I would get very attached. That sort of in-between ownership requires a certain amount of detachment, I think, that I wouldn't be able to manage. If you were considering buying him anyway, and you're ready to buy a horse and everything, maybe you could find a different horse to buy, that way you wouldn't have to deal with this type of situation in the future?
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post #6 of 10 Old 08-19-2012, 09:48 PM
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I have loved many horses over the years. I got my first pony when I was 11 years old. I am now 54. Each horse has been special in his or her own way. The horse that I own now is so awesome. Nothing can ever take the place in your heart of a horse that you love, but you have a big enough heart for new love.
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post #7 of 10 Old 08-19-2012, 10:00 PM
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WHen I was young, I fell in love with a lesson horse at the stabe. I begged my parents to buy him, and they tried to, but the (very wise) stable owner wouldn't sell him. I was devastated. I didn't think I would EVER love a horse like that again. Two months later, my parents were looking at a house to buy . I walked around the back and there was a bay 3 year old unbroken quarter horse colt standing there.

long story short -they bought the horse instead of the house, and the colt wound up taking me ALL the way in open jumping . He taught me to ride and to train, and he was the best horse I could ever have had. That lesson horse would NEVER have been able to let me fulfill my dream of jumping in competition.
AS hard as it is right now, another one WILL come along whom you will love and connect with - possibly even more than this one. I believe in fate - and I agree with AQHGA Gal - if it doesn't happen, it wasn't meant to be.

You WILL find your dream horse - it just might not be this one.
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post #8 of 10 Old 08-19-2012, 10:00 PM
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I once leased a horse and then it got taken off me because the owner wanted it back even though they never used it.

I was so sad because of all the time and work I had put in to have this horse gone. And then I said I'd never lease again because the whole thing is just not good I think.

If something isn't yours, you can lose it and all the time you invested in it.

Other horses will come along and you'll love them just as much as this one, they're all different but that adds to the charm. Just guard yourself and be aware that a horse that isn't your horse is likely to be taken away someday.
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post #9 of 10 Old 08-20-2012, 05:06 AM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone, I was ready to buy this horse and I was going to however one of his sharers (I full loan) announced it first. I knew a long time ago that he was going to be up for sale but I didn't say anything. I should have been quicker, we'll see what happens I guess.
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Thank you everyone, I was ready to buy this horse and I was going to however one of his sharers (I full loan) announced it first. I knew a long time ago that he was going to be up for sale but I didn't say anything. I should have been quicker, we'll see what happens I guess.
yeppers, but perhaps deep down there was a reason you hesitated to buy. Many times, when animals are concerned, we act on emotion. Perhaps this wasn't the right long term fit for you. There should always be a bond that forms between horse and rider. That bond grows with strength the more you work with a particular horse. Its hard to let go of anything or anyone you have a strong bond with. But you will be fine!

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