I am 43 and have been riding for 6 years on and off. I start, get a scare, stop, get courageous and start again.
Have been riding at my current barn for 3 years and decided it was time to buy another horse (we won't even get into the first two). So Zoregon it was (as per my avatar). 7 years old, green broke W/T/C. Came and saw him 3 times, rode him, all was well so bought him.
Day 1 - he broke through 3 fences at my barn, manure smelled 'funny'
Day 2 - broke through 2 fences, jumped a third, crawled under a fourth, over a bridge, down the road, found 5 kms away in an apple field. The only conclusion was that he had been heavily drugged every time I went.
I have worked with him for a year started with following him around the paddock holding a lunge line. Put 4 months professional training into him. Wanted to sell him so many times but my trainer keeps saying there is a good horse in there. Problem is, I'm afraid. I ride him for a week or two, get scared then stop. Because he is green, when I start up again (usually 3 weeks later I appear) I have to start all over with lunging etc. not to mention my trainer is usually angry because I put him on ignore. I have been off for another 3 weeks because she wants me to start cantering him. I have the skill to ride him, not the confidence or trust. So to finally get to my question. Can someone overcome their fears? He is a good horse although he spooks at the cats (four steps and stops) but scares me to death. I can't sell him, who would buy a horse that runs away? (there are many more stories about him, but in the interest of it not taking you an hour to read my post, I have left them out). Any and all advice is solicited and welcomed!