Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: The land of Enchantment
haha, OP, at least you seem to have kept a sense of humor through it all. I enjoyed reading your post. And welcome to the forum.
Maybe it is just a communication problem. I mean, you trainer saying there is a good horse in there, ya just have to find it? Did they misunderstand your objectives? Or, did you express to them that you passion was straightening out and finishing a problem child? I believe there is a good horse in every horse, but I don't believe everyone is suited to finding them. It can be time consuming, frustrating, and can rattle anyone's confidence. You sound like you would just like to enjoy progressing at your riding skills.
Maybe you would feel guilty if you sold the fellow? If you try hard enough, he will get a good home if you go that route. If you are going to feel you failed somehow, just don't. Your trainer has failed you, IMO. I just finished a year long search for another horse...and man, are there some fantastic horses out there for cheap (relatively speaking). There is no shortage. I am sure your guy is an excellent horse for the right person. Get a well behaved, honest, proven horse and enjoy yourself!
There is just as much horse sense as ever, but the horses have most of it.