I am 43 and have been riding for 6 years on and off. I start, get a scare, stop, get courageous and start again.
Have been riding at my current barn for 3 years and decided it was time to buy another horse (we won't even get into the first two). So Zoregon it was (as per my avatar). 7 years old, green broke W/T/C. Came and saw him 3 times, rode him, all was well so bought him.
Day 1 - he broke through 3 fences at my barn, manure smelled 'funny'
Day 2 - broke through 2 fences, jumped a third, crawled under a fourth, over a bridge, down the road, found 5 kms away in an apple field. The only conclusion was that he had been heavily drugged every time I went.
I have worked with him for a year started with following him around the paddock holding a lunge line. Put 4 months professional training into him. Wanted to sell him so many times but my trainer keeps saying there is a good horse in there. Problem is, I'm afraid. I ride him for a week or two, get scared then stop. Because he is green, when I start up again (usually 3 weeks later I appear) I have to start all over with lunging etc. not to mention my trainer is usually angry because I put him on ignore. I have been off for another 3 weeks because she wants me to start cantering him. I have the skill to ride him, not the confidence or trust. So to finally get to my question. Can someone overcome their fears? He is a good horse although he spooks at the cats (four steps and stops) but scares me to death. I can't sell him, who would buy a horse that runs away? (there are many more stories about him, but in the interest of it not taking you an hour to read my post, I have left them out). Any and all advice is solicited and welcomed!
To answer you question, yes but I don't think it would be with this horse.
Here's my take on your situation. 4 months with a trainer and you should see some definite improvements. If not, the trainer does not know what they are doing.
Your trainer wants you to keeps the horse because he's a diamond in the rough? I don't think so. I think they think "Hah, I found a sucker and am going to milk it out for some easy money." Honestly, I could be wrong because I don't know the trainer or seen their work and I don't know all the issues being dealt with with your horse. It's just what I feel from reading your post.
I will agree that you should sell your horse and get an older, been there done that horse. Green + green = black and blue. Even though you may be able to ride, your confidence level is keeping you at the beginner level. An older, more broke horse without issues, will help you gain confidence and enjoy riding. Posted via Mobile Device