Thank you all for your very, very good advice!
I should clarify I have a coach and a trainer who works for her (coach is older and doesn't want any broken bones). The trainer is young and fearless! He is an absolute angel for her, does everything she asks and that's why after four months she feels I should be able to ride him no problem. But usandpets is right, I have the ability to ride at an advanced level, but the mentality of a beginner. Sigh, this is definitely going to have to be a 'full disclosure sale'. I do care for him, fear aside and don't want to see him go to a bad home. It's difficult when you really want to be the confident rider, but don't seem to have the ability to do so.
I would think the info a potential buyer could glean from this alone is valuable - and they would appreciate the fact that it can be said w surety that he can do well under saddle, but he needs a "confident" rider.
If my objective were to perfect my riding skill, I wouldn't want my trainer to ride my horse - or use a horse for that effort that my trainer needed to ride. Don't they have one of their own? (kidding).
And, don't feel bad...there are oodles of people that have, too, "met their match" when it comes to being "out horsed", and there are oodles more that won't admit it. I stuck w one I got as a yearling that would have rattled most anyone's
confidence, and while I do not regret it at all and I learned "volumes" from him and we did manage to become a great team after a lot
of hard work and arguments he often won, I am not sure why
I stuck w him. If I had to go through that agian...no thanks...double no thanks
. I think anyone w the good sense to find another is ahead of the game, really.