Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
As all the others have said don't limit yourself.
I've met mares that are dull and boring and want nothing to do with people, and geldings that are full of life and live in your pocket. One person where I keep my horse has this great gelding so full of personality and so close to her.
You don't just meet a horse and have a connection, not usually. It takes about a year for you to really get to know each other. There is no "one", there are just horses that are friendlier than others and that you put the time and effort into getting to know. Some human and horse personalities will "click" better, but otherwise its all down to working at it.
I don't think that there is any huge difference with mares. They are more "sparky" and perhaps more intelligent, but they're often more distracted as well. Each mare and each gelding is different.
Now this may seem a little harsh but maybe you should try to be a bit realistic about horses. A horse isn't a "special friend". Everything you want to feel with the horse, someone who is there for you, someone not to judge you, someone to cry on - that's all in your head. The horse does not feel that. Horses don't work that way. People feel those things. And even if you're lonely and sad, whether you talk to a horse, a cow or a rock even it doesn't make a difference - it's still all on your side. So when looking for a horse and a horse connection realise that they are not human. Nor are they human centric animals like dogs. The bond isn't going to be like that of another human, or even a dog.
I'm just concerned that you're looking for something you can't find.