Originally Posted by deserthorsewoman
Don't worry. You had the best intentions. You cared about the horse.
Exactly. You're frustrated because you know this person and worry that she's about to bite off more than she can chew.
It's not that you don't think an 11 year old could learn, but her casual attitude toward the horse and riding makes you worry for the horse and the rider. She doesn't appear willing to seek out the knowledge on her own and it appears she plans on depending on you when things go wrong.
Her parents are not showing interest in the horse, so there is a concern that a young girl without parental or experienced adult guidance is going to find herself in over her head.
You're not a fan of the barn she will use for board (and how many on this board can say that there aren't bad barns out there). So, you worry that the horse will not receive proper care and this young girl won't know it until it's too late.
There are a lot of little yellow/red flags that are running around in your head when you think about this girl obtaining and caring for a horse. You know she will look to you for guidance, but you are not sure you want to be her "go to" person for a variety of reasons.
I think you do have some very valid concerns. I would too. But, she's going to do whatever she wants to do regardless of your opinion. At this point, you can only control yourself. What are you going to do when/if she approaches you with questions? Are you willing to help her out or are you going to try and remove yourself from the entire situation? Posted via Mobile Device