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post #31 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 04:11 PM
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It's ok to be curious and even a little ranty. I recognized my own daughter when reading your post as she has a lot of the same feelings about our neighbor's daughter that you have toward this girl.

It can be really frustrating to watch others set themselves up for failure. Compassionate people want to help, but some folks just can't be helped.
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post #32 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 04:29 PM Thread Starter
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Exactly!


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post #33 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 08:24 PM
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It's ok to be curious and even a little ranty. I recognized my own daughter when reading your post as she has a lot of the same feelings about our neighbor's daughter that you have toward this girl.

It can be really frustrating to watch others set themselves up for failure. Compassionate people want to help, but some folks just can't be helped.
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So, what type of people is it that go to a public board and put an 11 year old child on blast for having the nerve not to be born known everything there is to know about horses?
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post #34 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 08:55 PM
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So, what type of people is it that go to a public board and put an 11 year old child on blast for having the nerve not to be born known everything there is to know about horses?
Jealous ones apparently!

I didn't know anything about horses when I bought my first and I was a grown ADULT! My total experience was *maybe* a dozen pony rides 20+ years earlier and 5 test rides on various possible buys. I didn't even know how to put a halter on a horse!

Owning an older well-trained horse isn't exactly rocket science. Previous owner told me what to feed her, I realized I didn't know a darn thing and my "well-trained" horse was anything but, so I found a trainer and went from there. My horse never suffered for a minute. She didn't give a hoot that I attempted to put her halter on upside down.... all she cared was that she had a nice boarding place to live at, horsey friends, tons of hay and plenty of treats from her clueless owner.
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post #35 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 08:56 PM Thread Starter
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I'm sorry
I just wanted to let this all out, it has been feasting at me from inside. I just wanted to have a little rant...which turned into quite a big rant...


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post #36 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 09:03 PM
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I'm sorry
I just wanted to let this all out, it has been feasting at me from inside. I just wanted to have a little rant...which turned into quite a big rant...
Don't worry. You had the best intentions. You cared about the horse.
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post #37 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 09:06 PM
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I agree :)
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post #38 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 09:23 PM
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Don't worry. You had the best intentions. You cared about the horse.
Exactly. You're frustrated because you know this person and worry that she's about to bite off more than she can chew.

It's not that you don't think an 11 year old could learn, but her casual attitude toward the horse and riding makes you worry for the horse and the rider. She doesn't appear willing to seek out the knowledge on her own and it appears she plans on depending on you when things go wrong.

Her parents are not showing interest in the horse, so there is a concern that a young girl without parental or experienced adult guidance is going to find herself in over her head.

You're not a fan of the barn she will use for board (and how many on this board can say that there aren't bad barns out there). So, you worry that the horse will not receive proper care and this young girl won't know it until it's too late.

There are a lot of little yellow/red flags that are running around in your head when you think about this girl obtaining and caring for a horse. You know she will look to you for guidance, but you are not sure you want to be her "go to" person for a variety of reasons.

I think you do have some very valid concerns. I would too. But, she's going to do whatever she wants to do regardless of your opinion. At this point, you can only control yourself. What are you going to do when/if she approaches you with questions? Are you willing to help her out or are you going to try and remove yourself from the entire situation?
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post #39 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 09:35 PM Thread Starter
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Hmmmmm...if she asked me for help I would only give her minimal advice just so she can figure out the less important bits for herself. It's sorta strange too..why am I ranting about an 11 year old girl getting a beginner friendly horse, when I broke in a 5 year old STB gelding who never had anyone on his back before. We all have out doubts, but maybe this girl will learn a lot and discover the true love of horses.
You guys are right, there's nothing I can do but give her some advice and wish for the best for her horse.
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post #40 of 56 Old 04-03-2013, 09:42 PM
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Good for you!

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