Ok I need to vent. I have been part of this horse forum for a while now and I absolutely love it here! But then I join this other one just to get more opinions on side reins. Wish I never did that.
Everyone who has responded has told me that i'm not experienced enough to use side reins, it doesn't get my horse into frame (which I know but it won't allow her to raise her head really high) and that I need to take lessons to do this.
It just seems like they only read what they wanted to, and wrote back in response to that. Didn't take the time out to ask me questions or anything.
I even said I wasn't getting the typical side reins, but the Vienna style one, which in my opinion, is a lot different than side reins. Then they tell me that I should just long rein her, because it will get the same results and I wouldn't be damaging my horse!
I don't know what to do now! I wanted to get the vienna reins as just a little help. Not that I'd use them everyday at all, but just to be like "this is how I want your head to be. And now you can move out better" But now i'm like, should I just return them?
Everyone here is so nice, and I was expecting that there too, and it just wasn't.
Is it me? Or is it just those people there??
It's really frustrated me because here, no one said I shouldn't be doing it. Everyone supported me and gave me ideas as to what to use.
I honestly never should have done it because now i'm doubting everything. I told them why I don't take lessons where I am, and no one said anything about it. All those instructors there do is force a horse to do something. "He's not doing that? Give him a smack!"
"give him a good jerk in the mouth to make him listen to you"
I don't do that with my horse. Its all about asking, and the horse answering. Not forcing them to do stuff.
I think that's it for now... and thanks for reading