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        02-07-2008, 02:35 PM
    Is it me or them???

    Ok I need to vent. I have been part of this horse forum for a while now and I absolutely love it here! But then I join this other one just to get more opinions on side reins. Wish I never did that.

    Everyone who has responded has told me that i'm not experienced enough to use side reins, it doesn't get my horse into frame (which I know but it won't allow her to raise her head really high) and that I need to take lessons to do this.

    It just seems like they only read what they wanted to, and wrote back in response to that. Didn't take the time out to ask me questions or anything.

    I even said I wasn't getting the typical side reins, but the Vienna style one, which in my opinion, is a lot different than side reins. Then they tell me that I should just long rein her, because it will get the same results and I wouldn't be damaging my horse!

    I don't know what to do now! I wanted to get the vienna reins as just a little help. Not that I'd use them everyday at all, but just to be like "this is how I want your head to be. And now you can move out better" But now i'm like, should I just return them?

    Everyone here is so nice, and I was expecting that there too, and it just wasn't.

    Is it me? Or is it just those people there??

    It's really frustrated me because here, no one said I shouldn't be doing it. Everyone supported me and gave me ideas as to what to use.

    I honestly never should have done it because now i'm doubting everything. I told them why I don't take lessons where I am, and no one said anything about it. All those instructors there do is force a horse to do something. "He's not doing that? Give him a smack!"

    "give him a good jerk in the mouth to make him listen to you"

    I don't do that with my horse. Its all about asking, and the horse answering. Not forcing them to do stuff.

    I think that's it for now... and thanks for reading
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        02-07-2008, 03:54 PM
    Wow that community you went to sounds like abunch of snobs. Ya I love this community also, everyone is nice and very helpful. I suggest you use those reins, don't doubt yourself. A horse has to keep his head down so he can see where he is goin, and won't trip or injure themselves. I am not experienced enough to give you a 100% sure fire answer, but from what I have learned, the type of side reins you are usin should do the trick as long as its not everyday.

    Hope that helps!!!
        02-07-2008, 04:11 PM
    Brandon, thank you so much!

    They really are snobs. All of them are like "my horse is prettier than yours"

    I think all I really needed was to hear that i'm doing the right thing and they have no idea what they're talking about lol.

    I would have talked to my boyfriend about this, but he doesn't understand what I'm doing or talking about lol
        02-07-2008, 04:38 PM
    I have found that some forums are just full of snotty rich people, and have left quite a few because of it.
    Personally, I don't like side reins.. but I have also never been shown how to use them properly (once had a coach who made me use them on a mare I was riding, and all it did was force her head down and eff up her back).
    But, you are not going to use them like that. Go ahead and use them, just make sure you take them off every couple of rides to make sure she does understand and isnt being forced there, and you're good
        02-07-2008, 04:49 PM
    8) Well I am glad I could help you out.. I absolutly love horses, they are by far much cooler than cars or trucks.

    Good luck,
        02-07-2008, 05:04 PM
    I don't plan on riding in them. Just lunging her a few times with them on, and only if need be ride with them on. I got a caveson and surcingle too, so I want her to be more than comfortable with that before I introduce the side reins.

    I was always a fan of horses, ever since I could remember. My 1 year old birthday cake even had a horse on it!

    Thank you so much everyone!
        02-10-2008, 01:04 PM
    Does the name of the other board start with a C?!
        02-10-2008, 01:08 PM
    No it doesn't. The only reason why I went onto another board was to get a second view on side reins (as in people who didn't know me or my horse)) and it was just a huge mistake. I got my vienna lunge reins and was just looking up more information when I came across someone else who replied to my post. It was so rude and mean, I almost broke down in tears. So then I immediately came on here and felt so much better
        02-10-2008, 05:31 PM
    Wow; I hate forums like that.
    Yeah, it's definitely them, not you! :)
    Yeah, it definitely sounds like they are snobbish & think they are so great; bleh. :(
    I'd just stick around here, it's way nicer, LOL!
        02-10-2008, 05:46 PM
    I'm never leaving this forum again! I love everyone here, and we're all level headed, down to earth people, who love horses! ((even tho that last part is quite obvious ))

    Thanks Poptartshop!

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