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        10-05-2013, 12:40 PM
      #1
    Foal
    My biggest desire is to leave my stable TODAY

    I'm just done with my stable. My trainer got kicked out, all my close friends have left because they don't want to deal it, there have been copious amounts of drama... I hired a trainer to give me a lesson today and the BO didn't even tell me I had to pay $20 every lesson to her. Yeah I am friends with the BO and her posse and to be honest I do like them but I just don't want to be there anymore. Really. I need to leave. I want to leave today.
         
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        10-05-2013, 12:45 PM
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    Originally Posted by iDressage    
    I'm just done with my stable. My trainer got kicked out, all my close friends have left because they don't want to deal it, there have been copious amounts of drama... I hired a trainer to give me a lesson today and the BO didn't even tell me I had to pay $20 every lesson to her. Yeah I am friends with the BO and her posse and to be honest I do like them but I just don't want to be there anymore. Really. I need to leave. I want to leave today.
    You have friends and support, just walk next door......
         
        10-05-2013, 01:49 PM
      #3
    Weanling
    Um, then leave. Stop talking about it, pack up and get the hell outta there.
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        10-05-2013, 01:52 PM
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    Trained
    If you really are friends with the BO at the rest, you should be able to talk to her about the problems and work together to fix them. Don't confuse acting friendly towards you with being your friend.

    If you're unhappy, move. If the new place has issues, then either suck it up until you can find the right place or broaden your search to find the right place to move to now.
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        10-05-2013, 03:40 PM
      #5
    Foal
    I just posted the following on another thread of mine which stems from the same issue but is a slightly different topic which contributes to this conversation.

    If you read this you'll probably understand much more of what I'm going through:

    I don't even know how to identify how the care is. At first what happened is the fired both of the stable hands. At that point, my old trainer took his string of 9 horses and left, and then more people began to pour out. At that point my trainer was then forced to do all of the work of the entire stable from feeding to watering to cleaning the stalls. There was a whole lot of drama between him and the owner (this trainer is seriously the sweetest person ever), talk of gossip and people turning on each other, and more and more people began to leave. I feel like most of the people up there have left, and the amount of boarders has really shrunken. I heard some things of the care being negative. The problem is that I haven't had any personally horrible experiences with the BO being rude or anything, but I hear things of her being a liar, unstable, blaming people for random things, being unprofessional (I have experienced some of this), leaving a halter and chain on in a stall or something like that for some time, having the hay nets too low, etc. I have seen her ride my horse and I know she is trying hard but her riding did not have the experience to deal with my horse who is a challenging horse to ride and didn't compare to my old trainer. It's kind of a bummer to hear myself say these things such as that she isn't nice or such because I haven't experienced any issues with her personally, but I can say that I am concerned about her being unstable for my horse. My horse is field board and I always know she is getting fed and watered and all of that, but I really am just done with the drama and I want to get out. Plus it is 40 minutes away and the distance is too far for me to be feeling that negative every time. My dream stable just gave away their last stall yesterday, but they may have another opening in the next few weeks... so I'm praying and being patient... I wish I could move somewhere in the meantime but I don't have a place so...

         
        10-06-2013, 03:26 AM
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    Sorry, thought you were near me....your post sounded almost like a situation that we had at a ranch next door to us.

    I hope you are able to figure out a way to get to the stable you really like. Being in a happy environment is much healthier for you and your horse.
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        10-06-2013, 04:12 AM
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    If it's really THAT bad, then just move. You don't need to "identify" the sort of care that your horse is getting- if your horse isn't being properly cared for, then he's not being properly cared for. Either plan on doing the care yourself, or move the horse. Pardon me for not referencing the other thread after I read it earlier today, but if I remember right you should have been able to move your horse to a much closer area with higher quality care within the next day or so? Do it- if it's really that bad, then just do it. Even if the arena is bad, then ride in a pasture. Since you have the opportunity and desperate need I don't really see the need to complain about the issue at all.

    Honestly, I don't see any reason to keep your horse there other than (possibly) price, that you are currently there, and that it's a bit dramatic. Either move your horse to the new location or live with it!!
         
        10-06-2013, 08:09 AM
      #8
    Weanling
    Goodness. So you feel that your horse is well cared for, you get along well with the BO and have some issues with the trainer. In a nutshell. The rest is all drama and getting sucked into other peoples issues. You can chose to ignore that, which is what I would do. It sounds like you are complaining about OTHER PEOPLES problems. Maybe feeling a bit guilty that you can't join in the complaining because YOU personally don't have any problems. I think the DRAMA is the problem. You could get that in the best of barns. If you WANT to leave, then do. But you may just move into a barn with MORE drama than the one you are leaving. Personally, I would just stay away from the drama crew...
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        10-06-2013, 11:27 AM
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    Foal
    Cebee, I think you may have actually misunderstood. I don't feel my horse is being well cared for, I am having some trouble with the BO, and the only issues with my trainer are that the BO kicked him out and now he isn't allowed to come to that property anymore...

    Thanks for all your advice, everyone!
         
        10-06-2013, 11:28 AM
      #10
    Foal
    Question: Is it too stressful to move my horse more than once in a month period of time or so?
         

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