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    01-18-2011, 11:02 AM
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I have been riding for two year. I really want a horse. My parents will not let me! I willl stay dedicated and I will like do anything for a horse. I dream about having a horse. I know the responsibility and the commitment. I really will stay commited. I will do anything for horse ! I know the place I am going to board at. I really think I am ready for a horse . I need advice for like getting my parents to agree with me. I mean I would even go for a lease but they say no. I mean come on. It stinks when your mom is not a horsey person! Or your dad ! I think it is not fair . I really want a horse . Please give me advice on how to convince my parents.
     
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    01-18-2011, 11:46 AM
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Your parents might have a very good reason for saying no. Horses are very expensive.

They have much larger things to worry about, like keeping a roof over your head, food on the table, etc.




Have you shown that you are responsible? Do you do your current household chores with out being asked? Do you volunteer to do more things?
     
    01-18-2011, 11:50 AM
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Showing initiative to help out is a big step. How old are you? Why not get a part time job? Horses are a huge expense. Much more expensive than you probably think they are.
     
    01-18-2011, 11:52 AM
  #4
Weanling
I'd sit down and take that first step in becoming an adult and ask them why. Be prepared for the truth, which could be anything from fear to finances.

And then accept it for what it is. Parents call the shots, I'm afraid..
     
    01-18-2011, 11:56 AM
  #5
Weanling
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Originally Posted by fuadteagan    
I have been riding for two year. I really want a horse. My parents will not let me! I willl stay dedicated and I will like do anything for a horse. I dream about having a horse. I know the responsibility and the commitment. I really will stay commited. I will do anything for horse ! I know the place I am going to board at. I really think I am ready for a horse . I need advice for like getting my parents to agree with me. I mean I would even go for a lease but they say no. I mean come on. It stinks when your mom is not a horsey person! Or your dad ! I think it is not fair . I really want a horse . Please give me advice on how to convince my parents.
Well first you will definitely have to prove you are dedicated. As above, make sure to do your chores, without complaint or question. Where do you ride and want to board at? If I were you I would try and get in there, maybe only one day a week, cleaning stalls etc. See if they need help with anything, if it's possible for you to get there easily. Offer to do anything, clean saddles, ready horses for lessons, ANYTHING.

You're going to have to put it on your own shoulders for a little while. I assume that your parents are paying for some sort of lessons since you said you have been riding for two years? If that's the case simply ask the instructor/Barn Owner if there would be any way you could work off the price of your lesson with barn chores. That would surprise your parents quite a bit, no?

Then don't bug your parents for awhile, because if you can prove you want it enough they will see it. They will see you taking the responsibility and initiative, then give them a few months. They will warm, especially if you are paying for your own lessons.

There might even be a way for you to work off a lease which is a win/win if your parents can't afford it. Check multiple barns in your area. Spring is coming and barn help is going to be needed and barn owners will be more apt to okay the work for lease situation.

Good Luck! It's going to be a struggle, but anything worth having is worth fighting for.
     
    01-18-2011, 11:59 AM
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Weanling
Unfortunately, you can't change your parents. However I do think they have a point. I began riding when I was 5. I took lessons once a week until I was 8. When I was 8, I began leasing the bratty lesson pony I rode for a 3 day/week lease. He taught me a TON about riding in the year I leased him. When that trainer decided to switch barns, we looked into purchasing a horse. I got my first horse when I was 9. He was (at the time) a 10 year old Paint gelding, who we still have. I owned him for about a year, and then when I was 10 I began leasing another very young pony mare. (My sister also rides, so she started riding our paint) She was a green broke 4 year old who I taught to canter and jump. She also loved to buck. So I took MANY falls off of her in the summer I leased her. However, she made me quite a nice little rider. When I was 11, we bought a 4 year old Haflinger mare as a project pony for me to train. Long story short, she ended up being crazy, and knocked me out. We sold her about a month after buying her. When I was 11, I got my current mare. She was quite a handful. She was 5 when I bought her, but she acted like a 2 year old. (She's now almost 8, and still hasn't quite quieted down)

My point is, that I rode for quite a long time before I got a horse. And I leased first. I'd love to have the option to ride different horses now, because I can only ride my horses. Horses are extremely expensive. It's not just the initial cost of buying the horse. That's the cheapest part. Then you have to tack on board, vet and farrier bills, equipment, lessons, etc. You don't realize how much owning a horse costs until you actually have one. You also need to check up on your horse AT LEAST 3 days a week. If the farrier comes on a day that it's freezing cold and you're sick, you have to suck it up and go stand there with them. Owning a horse isn't always glamorous or fun. There's plenty of tasks you have to do that you'd rather not do. If your horse gets hurt or sick, you have to get the vet to come check it out. An injury may need to be bandaged or medicated every day, and gets who has to go out and take care of it? Yes, you. Whether you think you are ready or not, if your parents don't want to drive you there as often as you need to be, and they don't want to pay, you simply cannot get a horse. However, leasing may be a better option for you. It's a lot less responsibility, and it teaches you a ton. Often times you only have to pay board/leasing fee and don't have to worry about the vet and farrier bills.

This probably wasn't what you wanted to hear, but you need to be realistic. Try asking your parents why they don't want you to lease a horse. If its a money issue, maybe you can offer to do extra chores, or earn money outside your house (baby sitting, pet sitting, yard work, etc.) and offer to pay for part ofhte costs every month. Good luck :)
     
    01-18-2011, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted by hflmusicislife    
My point is, that I rode for quite a long time before I got a horse.


Laughing at the thought that having to wait until you were 9 as waiting for quite a long time before getting a horse.


I did not get my first horse until I was an adult and was able to afford to buy my own horse. Hence the reason I find your statement funny.


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Originally Posted by hflmusicislife    
Horses are extremely expensive. It's not just the initial cost of buying the horse. That's the cheapest part. Then you have to tack on board, vet and farrier bills, equipment, lessons, etc. You don't realize how much owning a horse costs until you actually have one. You also need to check up on your horse AT LEAST 3 days a week. If the farrier comes on a day that it's freezing cold and you're sick, you have to suck it up and go stand there with them. Owning a horse isn't always glamorous or fun. There's plenty of tasks you have to do that you'd rather not do. If your horse gets hurt or sick, you have to get the vet to come check it out. An injury may need to be bandaged or medicated every day, and gets who has to go out and take care of it? Yes, you. Whether you think you are ready or not, if your parents don't want to drive you there as often as you need to be, and they don't want to pay, you simply cannot get a horse. However, leasing may be a better option for you. It's a lot less responsibility, and it teaches you a ton. Often times you only have to pay board/leasing fee and don't have to worry about the vet and farrier bills.

This probably wasn't what you wanted to hear, but you need to be realistic. Try asking your parents why they don't want you to lease a horse. If its a money issue, maybe you can offer to do extra chores, or earn money outside your house (baby sitting, pet sitting, yard work, etc.) and offer to pay for part ofhte costs every month. Good luck :)
This part I totally agree with.
     
    01-18-2011, 12:12 PM
  #8
Weanling
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Originally Posted by Alwaysbehind    


Laughing at the thought that having to wait until you were 9 as waiting for quite a long time before getting a horse.


I did not get my first horse until I was an adult and was able to afford to buy my own horse. Hence the reason I find your statement funny.
Yes, I know I seem a tad spoiled ;) Plus, when you're that little, 9 seems like a very long time. I know a lot of people who ride for 6 months and get a horse. Heck, I rode in my trainer's spare helmet and pink 15$ Hello Kitty boots until I was almost 7.
I was just trying to make the point that you should consider yourself very lucky to even be able to RIDE. There are a lot of kids who don't get that option. However I help pay off my board by working at my barn, so it's not like I just got handed a horse. It took work for me too.
     
    01-18-2011, 12:22 PM
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Originally Posted by hflmusicislife    
Yes, I know I seem a tad spoiled ;) Plus, when you're that little, 9 seems like a very long time. I know a lot of people who ride for 6 months and get a horse. Heck, I rode in my trainer's spare helmet and pink 15$ Hello Kitty boots until I was almost 7.
I was just trying to make the point that you should consider yourself very lucky to even be able to RIDE. There are a lot of kids who don't get that option. However I help pay off my board by working at my barn, so it's not like I just got handed a horse. It took work for me too.
Hello Kitty boots...giggle.

I totally get what you are saying.

I am still laughing though.
(And feeling old, very old.)
     
    01-18-2011, 12:42 PM
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I would be fine with leasing I WANT to lease I don't really want to own just because it is super expensive and I know how much it is ? Oh and im 10! I think I have been riding for 3 years lol not sure if I buy a horse I want to board at the farm I have been at since I started never went to another barn ! They are nice and cheap like 200 for ..... ....... outside board ....... 250 for indoor. I know the responsibility. I live 25 minutes from the barn. I mean I know what horse I want to lease. They say it is money for both. My dad works at a college and makes like 50k a year and my mom works at a company that makes the stuff that is in shots. She makes like 100 k a year ! So we are not poor or anything and the lease is probably super cheap.
     

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