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  • Is my riding instructor holding me back
  • My riding instructor holding me back

 
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    05-17-2010, 11:36 AM
  #1
Foal
Unhappy My friend wants to ride with me again...

Hey guys, havent spoken in a while. :)
Well... My friend and I used to ride together, but I sort off stopped for a while and then started again, but my instructor said she was holding me back, so I should get lessons with someone who is at the same level as me, and I totally agree. But she asked me if I would start booking lessons with her again... she's my friend, and I don't want to hurt her by telling the truth, but I don't want to be held back "/
What do I do?
Thanks for the helpp, xx
     
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    05-17-2010, 11:44 AM
  #2
Showing
Tell her the truth.

Why should you be held back because she's not as good? That makes no sense, and it would be a waste of your parents' money to go backwards in your lessons.

Why can't you and she ride together outside of lessons? A nice hack or even a practice session seems preferable to you wasting your time and your parent's money.
     
    05-17-2010, 11:56 AM
  #3
Green Broke
ITA with Speedracer (again, lol).
     
    05-17-2010, 12:58 PM
  #4
Banned
I agree with the above. Maybe as a compromise, you can book one lesson with her and two on your own.
     
    05-18-2010, 11:18 AM
  #5
Banned
My best-friends riding instructor teaches her and this other gurl that isnt at the same level as her what she does is she works on both of there flat work until they are both doing jumping like they may go up to 2'3 but once that ends the girl lets her horse walk out and quits and then instructor works on my friend over higher stuff.
I don't think its a bad thing to do lessons with a friend but if she's seriously holding you back then why not go to the barn and ride with her on days that you don't take lessons and just go for a hack? You don't want to hurt her feelings but you don't want to lie.
     
    05-18-2010, 12:22 PM
  #6
Yearling
"My instructor feels we're in different places so we'd do better in different lessons." Just be honest and clear, don't try and weasel your way around it.
     
    05-18-2010, 04:01 PM
  #7
Showing
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Originally Posted by Heather Sutherland    
hey guys, havent spoken in a while. :)
Well... My friend and I used to ride together, but I sort off stopped for a while and then started again, but my instructor said she was holding me back, so I should get lessons with someone who is at the same level as me, and I totally agree. But she asked me if I would start booking lessons with her again... she's my friend, and I don't want to hurt her by telling the truth, but I don't want to be held back "/
What do I do?
Thanks for the helpp, xx
I would go out, take a lesson and perhaps make your point during that lesson to talk to her afterwards and say that "hey, I realize after this lesson that maybe it might be better if ride in different lessons because...."
If she is a good friend of yours and with both your passion for riding, she should be understanding. Good luck
     

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