My horrible week

I have had a horrible week and I really need to vent so here I go and please be patient with me...

First - I bought my horse a new everything - saddle, bridle, brushes, everything - after all he is my first horse.

Being a big boy(16.2) I knew he needed big boy stuff so I bought a 17" all purpose saddle and bridle package.(comes with the belly strap, stir ups)

I bought him what I thought was the same bit they were previously using on him - a 5-1/2" egg snaffle.

I have no clue how to assemble to saddle or the bridle (it looked like spaghetti to me)- looked that up on youtube.

The bridle didnt fit his huge head - went to the tack shop and bought a new one - this one didnt fit either and the bit didnt fit either.

Took the bridle back and the bit - bought another - get it all together and try it on him - nope the bit is too big. Get a new belly strap 56" - four times to the tack shop this week for exchanges.

Chased him in the pasture for 45 minutes because he is the only gelding with 3 mares who are now in heat. I never have to chase him - he always comes to me when I call him. Today was a very unusual day. After I was attacked by the mares who thought I was a threat to "their man" and they got whipped for trying to bite me. I finally got him and he got a lecture all the way to the barn for not listening to me. (I am 5'5" - he is 16.2 and I and he are the only ones there - yes I was mad and it is funny)

Today, get the first bridle back out and try to assemble it again -with a 5-1/2 inch D ring - Bridle fits, get him saddled - the bit pinches his tongue on the way out the barn and he goes mucking nuts!!!! I swear I am never going to ride my horse!!!! Never!!! I feel like the worse person in the world. I should sell him and buy a scooter!!! I came home with the feeling of having my butt totally whipped today. My hubby looked at me and he is asking me if I give up yet and I never give up. Its been a month since I got him and I havent gotten to ride him yet as it has been one thing after another. This week has just been horrible. Any advice would be more than appreciated. I would even give my phone number if you want to call me.

Doesn't sound like anybody died... yet.. lol

Just think though, once you get all of the tack fittings done and over with you will be able to go on beautiful rides! Is there anyone who could help you with the fittings?

I'm curious about how the bit pinched his tongue?

Can you post photos of your setup? There is a right way and a wrong way to attach a bit to the bridle, and if you do it wrong, it can most definitely pinch. If it's the right way around, then (unless they hate single-joints) it should not.
If you bought a cheap saddle package online, there is a good chance that the saddle is very cheaply made and doesn't fit properly, and the saddle itself can pinch. I always compare saddles to shoes - you have to find the right fit otherwise it's agony to try and do anything in the blasted things. The belly strap is called a girth :)
Can you work with a trainer for a while to learn the basics? It sounds like you need a bit of a hand to get this thing under control :)

I was leading him out of the barn by his bridle and he was "being very vocal" to his girlfriends in the pasture and the bit twisted and pinched his tongue - he was not a happy camper then - it all came to Jesus at that moment!!!

I also call it a girth but other people call it a belly strap - so... Yes it was a cheap online saddle for $200.00 its all leather and I havent even gotten on it yet. I was supposed to start lessons again with a new person Saturday but since I couldn't find a bridle to fit his big head there was no sense in taking lessons without him. I have been taking lessons without him on their horse but I want to take lessons on my own horse so I have switched to a new person so I can take lessons on my personal horse.

I would get a professional to check over your saddle. I really hate to say it, but those cheap sets are cheap for a reason, generally aren't well made and don't fit many horses at all. Compare that to buying a crap walking shoe that doesn't fit, and go for a run for even just half an hour.
I would honestly suggest you start working with a professional that can help you learn the basics :)

so the person who is giving me lessons isnt doing it correctly?

How long have you been with them?
I have no idea if they're doing it correctly or not, but I would suggest you find someone that can teach you such basics as fitting a bridle together. Please make sure you have someone check over the saddle fit - a saddle fitter (professionally trained) is best. An improperly fitted saddle can cause a whole slough of physical problems.
Congrats on the new horse, by the way - hope you're able to ride soon.
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Totally understand. Thank you for your concern and directness. I truly appreciate it.

We can't really tell if they are doing it right or not, simply because some people like to "cheat out" on saddle fit. Meaning they will add more pads. Etc. Do you have any saddle shops in your area?