Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Detroit, Michigan
Ground work, ground work, ground work. I once had a horse that treated me much the same way, and in all honesty it hurt my feelings so badly. Especially since we seemed to click before I bought him.
But, he was just trying to push my buttons and be the boss. I worked with him on the ground for about a week, and groomed and groomed and groomed. Once he saw that A) I was the boss and B) I wasn't going to torture him with my strange devices (saddle, reins, brushes, etc.) he came around rather quickly.
You are just being plain out disrespected, right now. Make her understand what you're about. It will take some time, but barring any physical ailment, she should snap to it.
He knows when you're happy
He knows when you're comfortable
He knows when you're confident
And he always knows when you have carrots.