My 8 year old Rat Terrier/Chihuahua mix, Penelope, is DEFINITELY "spe-shull" as, though she is 13lbs & certainly NOT tiny, it took her until she was three YEARS old to learn how to jump onto the couch, the bed, etc...(I know, most are happy if they don't have to train the dogs to GET ONTO the furniture, but c'mon! She's a LAP dog!)
My now 16 year old step-son IS genuinely special needs, and I am not in the least offended by your comment, Ware's...We love him dearly of course, as everyone does their child; but in addition to "US" thinking that he's the best, everyone he meets has wonderful things to say about him!
He is a beautiful young man, (nearly a grown up, now!) both inside and out...sometimes I am thankful that he is ISN'T just like every other "blankety-blank"-teen-aged-kid out there! Especially when the friends he attracts are all just as kind, polite, funny, and wonderfully innocent as he, so they are all a joy to have over to the house.
Not to mention that his goals in life are to EXCEL at all the things most non-special-needs teens are busy trying to be "too cool" to be good at (like schoolwork, martial arts, being kind and good to others, just to name a few)...though you can't tell with Jake, he has ALWAYS been more challenging to RAISE than "most kids", due to learning disabilities, ADHD, and having been deeply emotionally abused by his birth mother before the age of five (my husband's unfortunate ex-wife!), but the WORK is always rewarded 10-fold with the really (genuinely) special things he constantly accomplishes and brings into our lives!