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    09-26-2009, 11:03 AM
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My horse trainer >(

I HATE HER! The only reason Im still using her is because she is the only one my parents will pay, I'm only 14 so I can't get a job and pay for my own so I'm stuck with her! I don't like her because she never explains anyhing and is very confusing. Last night was my lesson and she wanted to work with rein management. Well I wanted to work on Walk, trot, canter, stop, and back because that's what she told me to work on and I did and Dozer is great with those. But, since she is the all mighty trainer she gets to decide. So we walk around the perimeter of the arena then trot. At one point Dozer leaves the rail to come to her. (she always gives him cookies and he is VERY food motavated!) SO I am bumping trying to get his huge head back to the rail, and he braces his neck and turns to her, then she tells me to drop my reins so I do, and she starts yelling saying how I'm ruining the horse and how I just let him get away with it and that it is annoying how I always do it. What the hell??? I NEVER do that!!! Its only when she is there and he wants cookies. She is so dumb! She gets mad when I can't pull his head around fast. Maybe because Im 100lbs and muscle-less and Dozer is an 18hh draft? Whatever, after that she told me I had to bump and when I did she said NO! Your bumping you should be pulling! Then I do pulling and she yells at me for not bumping! Then after we have yelled back and forth she says that she doesn't want to teach me anymore because I'm giving her lip! So I say fine! Leave! BUt does she? NO! Ugh!!! I HATE HER! ONe lesson she decided that I might want to learn how to show him in halter so we were pivoting and she kept saying I was doing it wrong but never would give me an explaination. In like the last two seconds of that lesson she said he is doing it right if his legs pass behind, if they pass in front he is doing it wrong. I really need to find a new trainer!!!
     
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    09-26-2009, 12:16 PM
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Green Broke
Aww that's hard when your trying to learn from sombody that you don't like. Have you told all this to your parents?
     
    09-26-2009, 12:19 PM
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Ya I have. They were even watching last night and they say its my fault. UGH! Its because they were talking to her husband the whole time and the only time they listened was when I was yelling back at her.
     
    09-26-2009, 12:23 PM
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Green Broke
Awww, that must be really hard... I hope you figue out something that works. Sorry I have no suggestions.
     
    09-26-2009, 12:51 PM
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What sucks is that I need lessons. I can't train Dozer all by myself but she is all I have. Maybe I will just post about what Dozer is doing wrong and you guys can give me advice on how to correct it. Then I wont need her....
     
    09-26-2009, 01:26 PM
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How old is your instructor? She sounds as though she's handling the situation in a very immature way. Now, I won't say that yelling back at her is the best way to go about it, but she need not yell at a child who is only trying to learn.

She sounds like a 16 year old kid.

Best of luck with getting a new trainer.
     
    09-26-2009, 03:04 PM
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She is like fifty. Maybe older... I would find a new trainer but she is the only one my parents like...
     
    09-26-2009, 06:39 PM
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Yearling
Hmm that is tough. Best thing to do though is keep your cool as best you can.

When she gets frustrating, stop, get off your horse and say calmly "I don't understand what you're trying to tell me, please explain it again, even better show me so I can learn."

She doesn't sound like she should be training horses or instructing riders but if that's all your parents will allow then you're going to have to play her game til you can figure it out on your own - with our help of course.
     
    09-26-2009, 07:17 PM
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Have your parents video tape a lesson, then watch it together, so you can point out the parts that frustrate you, and they can point out the parts they like. Then talk about it.
     
    09-26-2009, 08:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Icrazyaboutu    
What sucks is that I need lessons. I can't train Dozer all by myself but she is all I have. Maybe I will just post about what Dozer is doing wrong and you guys can give me advice on how to correct it. Then I wont need her....
What's going wrong is you're big teddy bear wants cookies and he's come to expect it from her. I'd be extremely frustrated if that happened to me and given my slight anger issue, the yelling would be a huge problem. But I understand where you're coming from with the big horse vs. girl. I'm 110 and 5'2. My mare is 17.3 and she's locked her neck before and all I could do was just pull back and make her stop, there was no turning her. Is there anyway you could just stop him and then move him back to the rail. Or maybe "dicipline" the instructor. Tell her if she wants you to be able to do this right, don't give Dozer cookies and break the habbit so he doesn't expect it from her anymore? Maybe if she gave you the cookies to give to him later?
Ugh that would piss me off so bad!!! You really need a better instructor but maybe if your parent won't offer that then something someone says here might help.

Someone above said maybe have her show you how to do it. If she won't get on him, or can't make him do what she want's...she shouldn't be yelling at you for having the same problem.
I'm slightly biased though...I've had crappy trainers and instead of going off on them, I just leave, no words, and when they ask why I say, I'm getting a trainer who can help me and not belittle me...thank you. (don't do that)
     

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