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post #1 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 03:43 PM Thread Starter
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My Mare is going to be euthanized

I'm so upset about this. I have written before about my mare. She has heaves and has had some back to back bouts of flare ups recently. The vet feels she has reached a new baseline and will have continual recurrent attacks. She is losing weight. She is abdominal breathing at a stand still and huffs and puffs with a stroll across the pasture even after meds. I have made the decision to euthanize her and it is killing me too! I feel so guilty. She is boarded and I have done all I could to change her environement but it is not so easy when I have no control. I have looked at other places to board her but there is really no better situation out there. I just can't believe in a few days I'll be holding her lead rope and looking at her cuteness for the last time. I feel like I am going to chicken out but I don't want her to suffer anymore either. If only I knew there was a horse heaven. I don't really believe in that. But it would make things so much easier.
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post #2 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 03:47 PM
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Oh please don't feel guilty - you are doing what a responsible horse owner would do. I'm really sorry that you are going through this, thoughts are with you :(

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I'm so sorry.
You're doing the best thing. Her body has failed her but you haven't. You're not giving up on her, you're giving her freedom.
Thank you for being able to give her this gift.
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post #4 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 03:53 PM
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our companion animals bring so much joy and satisfaction, but with being a responsible owner comes the pain of making the right decision, to end the suffering of our beloved animals.

I'm sorry you have to go through this, but take comfort in knowing you are stopping her pain and suffering.
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post #5 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 04:06 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear this- what a tough thing to go through.
I'm glad you're not selfish enough to keep her around and in pain.
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Thank you for the support in my decision. Makes me feel a little better.
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post #7 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 04:12 PM
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This was one of the hardest decisions I ever had to make. And I'm facing it again with my 26 year old and her arthritis. It's definitely the hardest thing an animal owner has to face - it ultimately comes down to putting the animal's needs before our own, as hard as that is. Being selfless is painful in these situations.
I'm really sorry to hear this, but I believe you're doing right by her.
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post #8 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 04:23 PM
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My heart goes out to you. Think of it this way, animals don't think in terms of a tomorrow. They don't say "Well tomorrow I am going to wake up, have my hay and hopefully I can go on a ride with my human". They pretty much live minute by minute. She will have no regrets and will not be suffering any longer. You will have the peace of mind that you did the brave and noble thing by helping your best friend find comfort and peace in, yes, horsey heaven. My best to you and your beloved.
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post #9 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 04:24 PM
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Im so sorry. But you are doing what any responsible horse owner would do. I know it doesn't stop the pain but you are doing the right thing instead of letting her suffer. I'm sure she will enjoy all that green grass and peacefulness in horsey heaven.

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post #10 of 22 Old 07-12-2013, 07:01 PM
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I'm sorry that you have to face this tough decision, it's always hard, but the last favor we can give to our beloved four-footed friends. If you might want a memento, trim some of her tail & you could have something made from it.
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