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post #1 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 11:56 AM Thread Starter
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My mom doesn't care if he dies. She is already killing him.

Today both horses escaped from the field when I was in school. They ran all over our neighbour's fields and mom couldn't catch them. She went to get me from the school and I caught them immediatly.

When we were driving she was explaining me everything that happened and said pony bit her. I asked her how he could do that if he had a grazing muzzle on. She said she went to get horses and took his muzzle off 'cause she always takes his muzzle off as soon as possible. ?

She was lying and lying bad. Dad then told me she doesn't put his muzzle on at all. I already knew that after her bad lie.

Our pony has severly rotated hoof bone, due to overfeeding, before we bought him. He has to keep his grazing muzzle on.
He is very disrespectful toward my mom, but behaves with me. She is very afraid of him, but she was able to clean his hooves, put a halter (or a muzzle) on...

When I asked her why she doesn't put his muzzle on, she said:"he bites"

I don't know what to do. I'm paying everything for the horses, even if the deal was she pays farrier for the pony. But I need her to feed horses and take them out when I'm in school.

What should I do?


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post #2 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 11:58 AM
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Pay a neighbor or someone else you can trust to do it. It's obvious your mother is afraid of the animal.

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post #3 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 12:02 PM
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that stinks. if she is nervous with the pony can you work with her and the pony to help her gain confidence so she can be respected??? and you could also train your mom to put the muzzle on... i had to train my mom to halter any of our horses she hates halters and would rather just lead them with a lead around there neck not tied... or if you still live at home i would suggest you let the pony out with muzzle before you leave for school- thats probably the simplest solution to make sure he goes out with muzzle. if he is a problem to muzzle your mom isn't going to want to be bothered with it so id she is to help you or willing to help you there you will have to teach her to do it and help her get respect from the pony
sorry good luck
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post #4 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 12:03 PM
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Take care of them yourself before and after school?? Doesn't seem that complicated to me.
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post #5 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 12:46 PM
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I took care of mine before and after school on my own....and I take care of them before work now. My mom recently retired and she cares for them in the evenings. I go down to the barn when the need medical attention in the evenings because she doesn't feel comfortable forcing pills down them or deworming or bandaging type stuff.... I don't force her to do more then she is comfortable with. In fact, she only feeds because she wants to...
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post #6 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by farmpony84 View Post
I took care of mine before and after school on my own....

Get up a bit earlier. Have everything ready before you go to bed and it won't take that long.
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post #7 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 12:54 PM
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It sounds like your mom is afraid...if that is the case, it's not that she doesn't care about him or's just that she is scared.

Your options are to teach her to do basic groundwork with him, teaching him respect

second option: find someone else to do the horse chores

Third option: do them yourself

I hope you don't really believe she doesn't care if he dies....
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post #8 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 12:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Sahara View Post
Take care of them yourself before and after school?? Doesn't seem that complicated to me.
I agree.

Just like most adults take care of theirs before and after work.

Get up a little earlier, yes it will be dark outside, tend to their needs and then repeat after school.
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post #9 of 31 Old 11-28-2011, 01:03 PM
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I agree with the others.

I think I would have everything prepped and ready to go for morning (grain/hay measured out and waiting, etc) so you can just grab it. Probably feed them as soon as you get up, before doing anything else. Then do your shower, eat, etc and then as you leave, put grazing muzzle on and turn out.
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I can understand why your mom didn't do it. If she's afraid, well, she's afraid. And frankly I don't blame her if she's not a horsey person and poneh bites. Personally I'd get up earlier to feed my horses and let them out until I'm back from school.

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