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    06-16-2010, 12:49 AM
My Problem

My riding instructor is letting me "borrow" her horse Reyna.

The problem is Reyna is for sale and I'm not allowed another horse.

My instructor said we could work something out (lease, payments, we didn't really go to far into it)... If I bred her I could sell the foal for $1800.00 and more if I got a colored foal. Selling the foal would help pay for her. She's got real good bloodlines. If I can remember she's pretty much reining bred.

I need to convince my mom why Reyna is a horse that will benefit me and would advance me in a way that none of my horses will ever be able to.

I'd like to show, get my levels, have lessons on my own horse, try new thing etc. I just can't with the horses I have right now.

She is only 7 and has done a little of everything. My instructor says she'd make a real nice reiner if she had a few more months of training.

We've went to a show together and I have done lots of trails. She's been kept at my place for a while now, so I've really gotten to know her.

I've started to bond with her.

What should I say to get my parents to consider letting me buy her, or at least lease her (if her owner would)?

I really like her and because horses are my ONLY hobby I think I should have one I can advance with and ride other then trails.

Not that I don't love my horses, especially Pro, but he's 25. Sam is 36. And Spring is 2...

Anyway... Here are some pictures of Reyna at the show we just went to(Hopefully my soon to be horse):)

I really want her. Any help would be great!
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    06-16-2010, 01:23 AM
Just tell your parents straight up, you can't go very far and compete and have a hard work schedule with a 20, 36 or unbroke 2 year old. Its just not possible!
    06-16-2010, 01:47 AM
Hmm..I got lucky with my dad. After leasing my second pony for a year or so, I started slyly showing him for sale ads, leaving them up on the computer, etc. Luckily he liked horses and spoiled me, so I finally got him to actively go on the hunt with me =P Mom wasn't too happy, but what's new ;) Granted, she was cheap and older, but perfect for a couple years 'til I was ready to move up. She also taught me a lot and I wouldn't have advanced nearly as much if I'd had a very old or very young horse that I couldn't learn on. If you have the resources for another horse and you're sure you want her, just keep trying.

Lol sorry, terrible advice. I didn't already have horses when I started trying to convince my parents to let me have one, so it was a little different.
    06-16-2010, 01:52 AM
Thanks guys.

But the only horse we pay for is Pro (long story)...And he was free.

Reyna will not just stay in one spot, she can keep going up as I get better, or if someone else trains her...So I can't really outgrow her and she's only 7.

She's perfect...It would just be terrible having such a great opportunity and not being able to take it.
    06-16-2010, 02:33 AM
Maybe you need to sacrifice one of your horses to get her. I'm not saying that you don't love your horses or you want to sell them, but maybe if you even just considered selling one of your horses to get her your parents would be more intrested.

Just a thought, I knew that would be very hard to sell one of your best friends, but it all depends how much you love and want her. :)
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    06-16-2010, 02:38 AM
I've been through that before (for different reasons).

There is NO way in the world I'd give up one of my horses...But we only pay for one. Board is free and feet only get done every 4-5 months (because I ride so much it wears them off). Trims are $30.00 per horse. They both can be barefoot and Reyna would only need shoes if we really started showing bigger. Both are easy keepers.

Thanks though. Good idea, but I just couldn't do it.
    06-16-2010, 02:55 AM
Are your parents saying no because you can't afford to feed and take care of another horse or is it the initial cost of the one you want to buy, or what? If it's because either you don't have room for 1 more horse or that you can't afford to feed another one, then sell or give away one of your horses. If it's just the initial expense or something of that nature, then find yourself a job and help pay for it and help provide feed....and you darn sure better make sure you take care of all the barn chores yourself. My 13 year old daughter babysits for her horse money. She pays for her horses board each month, most of her horses feed and farrier. She is also responsible for keeping her horse clean, rode, fed, hooves picked and also for helping clean stalls (her horse doesn't even have a stall) and scrubbing water buckets. I knew my daughter was ready for a horse when she was taking really good care of her lesson horses and when she had shoveled enough stalls and scrubbed enough water buckets to know that horses aren't all fun...there is work to be done. If you want to influence your parents, I'd start there...well, that and finding a way to make your own money.
    06-16-2010, 03:02 AM
I have a summer job at a riding center, so I said I'd pay. I would also get a part time job during school. And my instructor would try to make it work in a good way for me.

I'm the only horse person in the family, so I am the one who does the chores, so that's not the problem...They wont really give me an answer.

I'm at the horses from 3:45 - 8 or even 9 sometimes on weekdays, and weekends I'm sometimes there all day. I'm 100% dedicated. I go everyday rain or shine even if I'm sick I try my very best to go.

I really don't see why not...?
    06-16-2010, 03:11 AM
I think your best bet would be to ask your mom what you can do to allow you to get her. If it means giving away/selling one of yours, are you sure you couldn't do it? Why not? From the sounds of it you have a couple of older horses that could be useful companion horses or kid's horses (depending on temperament, health, etc. obviously).

Unfortunately sometimes we have to make sacrifices. Yours is either going to be Reyna or one of your others. Unless you and your mother come to a different conclusion.

But, I will say it again. I think your best bet is to ask your mom to give you a definitive reasoning for why she won't allow you to have another and try to come up with a conclusion from there. If she doesn't have or doesn't want to give you an answer - well, unfortunately, she's still your mother and there's not much you can do. Be polite when bringing it up, don't argue with her, just discuss the possibility.
    06-16-2010, 03:50 AM
I think your best bet would be to ask your mom what you can do to allow you to get her. If it means giving away/selling one of yours, are you sure you couldn't do it? Why not? From the sounds of it you have a couple of older horses that could be useful companion horses or kid's horses (depending on temperament, health, etc. obviously).

Unfortunately sometimes we have to make sacrifices. Yours is either going to be Reyna or one of your others. Unless you and your mother come to a different conclusion.

Great post Carleen. I have a feeling it's going to come down to you making a sacrifice one way or the other. We are not suggesting that you take one of your horses to a slaughter house. We are saying find one of them a really good home so that you have the horse you really want. What is Pro's temperament, health and experience?

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