Hi guys, I don't post here much but avidly read and I need help etc from the one group of people who will understand, horse people.
So here's the situation/backstory. When I turned 18 in October, and three days later got a job I've had since, I was turned out financially by my parents aside from car insurance. No clothes, shoes (actually just bought myself my second pair of shoes after my other 2 broke/got holes
), gas, board anything except food, and a place to sleep. And that was fine, I became independent, learned to deal and was doing okay.
But now, I'm going to college in August. In order to continue paying for these things, I need a job while there, and thus a car to transport me to and from said job. But for some strange reason, my parents refuse to allow this to happen, they boycott it, saying we won't allow you to have a job, so we wont help you pay for a car, we want you on campus and that's it. Now I completely understand them wanting me to focus on my studies, but at the moment in high school I'm taking college level courses, and maintaining a job and 3.7 GPA. Good enough to get me into university, so if I'm determined (which by all means I AM) shouldn't I be able to maintain that while at college and holding a job as well?
Getting to the meat and potatoes now, paying for gas, board, feed, vet, farrier etc isn't going to be cheap. I'm worried that doing this and trying to save for a car that is SAFE and RELIABLE, and not just a clunker that will break down and cost even more money I don't have to fix it again and again, too just isn't going to happen by august. Thus, the only thing I can think of is to give up the horse I've had since I was 12, whom I've grown up with and done EVERYTHING on and with (trust me, there were rough times, and we barely made it out), my rock and my best friend, give him up in order to be able to pay for my life, and life expenses. Not to mention give my horse GOOD care (farrier, shots, vet should he need it) and not neglect him due to bad finances, it just doesn't seem feasible to keep him while affording a car by august and college life after that.
I've contacted a therapeutic horsemanship program to see if I could donate/lease him to them, I think he would be perfect for it. If not I could find an alternate lease/buyer.
I know A LOT of people have to give up their horses for college/life, but this is so painful, he's always been the one thing my worlds been able to rotate around.
Any people gone through this?
Any ways out of this or am I making the right decision?
And my parents WON'T assist me, they laughed at me and told me I'm ruining my future to consider a job. Just to let you guys know.
And either way I will still get a job, I'm just not sure my horse (why does it have to be him?) will be supportable (correctly) even with that.
Thanks SO much if you read this.