I told my friend I much prefered a push button horse and was told that I wouldn't learn anything, I disagree, but we respect each others opinion.
I disagree with your friend.
Let me tell you a little story. As I said, I've had horses 32 years.
3 years ago, one of my horses hurt me badly. He was trying to get me off, and meant business. Bucked like a rodeo horse, and continued to buck even when I was flung about like a rag doll. I wound up breaking 3 ribs on my left side, my right collarbone, and got a massive concussion. Thank God I was wearing a helmet, or it would have been an even more serious brain injury.
2 months after that craziness, I lost my go-to horse. The one I trusted implicitly, and knew he would never knowingly hurt me or try to get me off.
The accident, along with losing my heart horse, made me terrified of riding. I'd get dry heaves just thinking
about getting back up on a horse.
For me, not riding just wasn't an option, but I knew I'd never do it again if I didn't get help. At this point I'd had horses 29 years and was far from being a newbie.
I found a trainer in my area who gave me lessons on her old, slow, reliable school horses. It wasn't that I didn't know how to ride, it was just that my confidence had been shattered.
My trainer let me pick my own pace. She pushed when I needed it, and backed off when I told her I needed a little more time on some things. But the persistence to move forward was always there from her, as well as within myself.
I'm now back to riding my own horses and have my confidence back in spades, but I'd have never gotten back in the saddle if I hadn't taken that first step and realized I needed help. Not just any help, but professional
I'd rather you not get beaten and busted up before you even know what riding and caring for horses is all about. Too many people are rushed into something for which they're not yet ready. It sounds like your friend is trying to push you, and you have the good sense to realize that's not going to work.
Find a good, reliable, professional trainer and learn on schoolies. You learn from every
horse you ride, not just the green or badly trained. Get your basics down, and if you feel confident enough to tackle a greenie somewhere down the line, at least you'll have a good solid background.