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        08-16-2012, 05:07 PM
    Thanks HagonNag, that's pretty good advice.

    And yes, I did know you have to clean a male horse's sheath
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        08-16-2012, 05:30 PM
    Originally Posted by sandy2u1    
    I have to laugh about the poster that thinks we all sound like your parents and have forgotten our dreams. That is just simply not true. What the rest of us have learned is that dreams just don't happen because you want them to. This ain't no disney movie. In real life, you have to work hard and be dedicated...then work harder still. I still have dreams myself, but I have learned that having dreams doesn't mean you should have instant gratification.

    To the OP..your parents are worried about your future and that is exactly what they should be doing. I don't blame them for not allowing you to burden yourself with a horse this close to college. Put that money you would spend on a horse into a savings account. You will be glad you did down the road. You can make your dreams come true, but you need to take care of yourself first. Get through college and get your career going and then by yourself a really nice horse.
    Laugh all you want. The op asked for moral support not a lecture.
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        08-16-2012, 05:32 PM
    Originally Posted by LonesomeRanch    
    Laugh all you want. The op asked for moral support not a lecture.
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    We can't in good conscience tell him, 'Oh yes! That will work out GREAT!', when we know that being responsible and patient will bring more rewards than instant gratification.

    You don't get moral support if you need to be reminded that what you want may not be the best thing for you at the time.

    As an adult, albeit a young one, I'd think you'd know the reasoning behind it.
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        08-16-2012, 05:36 PM
    Go to college, get a good paying job and then buy a horse. Most people are posting about needing to get rid of their horse when they go off to school. You should be working while you go to college and nwon't have time for a horse. IO agree with working or volunteering at a barn and ride someone elses horses.
        08-16-2012, 05:37 PM
    Originally Posted by LonesomeRanch    
    Laugh all you want. The op asked for moral support not a lecture.
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    Might have asked for support but what they really need maybe a reality check
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        08-16-2012, 05:40 PM
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    I want a horse

    Welcome to the real world!!
    We are horsey parents and my husband is lucky enough to still have a good job and we have our own land and barn. Our son is going to be in his second year in college in September and I can tell you that if we didn't look after his horse for him here at home there is no way we would afford his fees and pay for full board on a good yard. He manages to fit some work days into his busy college schedule but they wouldn't cover the costs of keeping a horse or running a car
    I'm not trying to be negative but my best advise to you is to ride somewhere as often as you can. Learn as much as you can and study as hard as you can so when you leave college you can get a great job and follow your dreams
    Good Luck
        08-16-2012, 06:26 PM
    Originally Posted by Horse racer    
    Thanks HagonNag, that's pretty good advice.

    And yes, I did know you have to clean a male horse's sheath
    Lol that wasn't something I knew until I overheard someone at the barn talk about it years ago. So its not something that's generally obvious. I was just giving an example. You can spend your time learning all these little things in the mean time.

    You will get there if you work hard :) I mean if you find during your first couple years of your course that you have all the time in the world and funds, then think about buying a horse.
        08-16-2012, 09:08 PM
    I'm fine with being lectured... but moral support is good. And I don't want anyone lying to me and telling me it will work out. I wanted the truth. It will be hard going to college horseless....

    And LonesomeRanch, your story inspired me a lot. Honestly I can't think of any other life I want to live than a horsey and cowboy/ranch life! Also my other MAJOR passion is guns. Especially guns with history and old west guns. I would like to be a gunsmith, but sadly doesn't pay enough to support my goals.....maybe be a mechanical engineer for a Remington or Winchester.
        08-16-2012, 09:40 PM
    Because of their love of horses a few friends got a BA plus a year of teaching. They love having liberal time off at Easter, two months in summer and 10 days at Xmas. Tons of riding time and they both bought acreages, a horse trailer and are loving it. I too see horses going up for sale when daughter goes to university. Parents worry that if you work to support a horse that your grades will slip.
        08-16-2012, 09:52 PM
    Originally Posted by AlexS    
    Dreams don't just fizzle away, there's no reason why that has to happen if they are just put on hold for a while.
    AlexS is completely right- I just bought my first horse at age 33. There were times in my middle/high school years when I thought it was completely unfair that my parents wouldn't pay for me to have lessons, let alone actually own a horse. But there were other priorities.

    The dream never went away, but while it was on hold, I had a great college experience, worked for awhile after, went back to grad school, and finally, after all this time, I have the type of job that allows me the "luxury" of a horse. It can happen, and the great thing about a horse is that it's perfectly reasonable to get involved as an adult- you don't have to be "born in the saddle" to be a perfectly competent rider and owner (though I sure do envy those of you who have been around horses since before you could walk )


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