Okay I need to blow off some steam here.
So a year ago I moved to Virginia with my family for two years, during that time a few things happened. My grandma's FANTASTICAL horse Bug-a-boo (whom I had been one of the first riders and lovers <3) was sent off to a tranior for a while. When he got back a boy Diego (who my grandma taught to ride) took a liking to him.
Now, a little bit about Diego before I pin him as the bad guy. He has a bunch of siblings and his parents can barely feed them. So basiclly he has to share everything and the only thing that is his is horses. He rode Bug while I was in Virginia and after the tranior that horse could carry a baby through a strorm and not freak out. So Dieog learned a whole bunch of stuff on him and the drama only started when we moved back. (I only saw Bug once a year because of birthday visits)
Anyway, when I started riding Bug again it was okay at first but I introduced him to jumping. Then all the people down there (I live in the city) started liking it and all my friends liked riding him in the english instead of western saddle. But before this happened Diego would call before he showed up but now he comes before nine in the morning and nobody wants to ride with him because he gets mad and just rants how jumping is ruining "His horse"
I have nothing against Diego but he is a complete ******* to me and I'm afraid that when he's mad some time and is riding my boy they could get hurt. My grandma sorta takes his side just because he's the poor little boy and only stands up for me when she catches him giving me his special attitude. I just feel so selfish when I ride Bug now because whenever I do Diego just stands around and sulks, and that makes my soul hurt!
How to I talk to him and try to meet a comprise and how do I get him to stop getting mad at me every time I try to go down there? I feel unwelcome down there and the last time I was down there I noticed sores of Bug's mouth. (My grandma doesn't want me to ride with Diego because he just runs the whole time and has to use a "Big boy" bit because of it) So that means whenever Diego goes to ride he just runs and uses all bit, not how my grandma taught us.
How do I get over my jealosy? How can I not be selfish? Do I just let him do whatever he likes or do I say something?
Just remmember, Diego is sweet and kind to everyone but me and I want it to stay that way minus the mean to me part. Horses mean everything to him so I don't want him to stop riding. But that could happen soon because my grandma is starting to notice how mean he is. Help.