And it is sad indeed
I have a horse that has a hard time bonding with people, because humans have hurt him time and time again. Right now, I am trying very hard to prove to him that I'm the real thing, but he wont allow himself to let his heart go. He wants to, but I have to work for it.
Lets start from the beginning. This happened about a year ago, maybe a bit longer.
I had an animal communicator talk to him, and this lady knew nothing about me, nor him. Just showed up and was accurate beyond accurate.
She kept talking about "The Girl" whom Nelson calls her. Nelson said that "The Girl" brushed him everyday, kissed him everyday, rode him everday, and would even sit in his stall for hours reading books to him and carrying on conversations with him. They competed together and did everything every young girl and horse do.
He came to love "The Girl" very much, and she woud show up at the barn every single day for "many summers" just to be with him. Then one day, while he waited for her - she never showed up. And again the next day, and again the next day.
"The Girl" just dissapeared and it broke his heart. No explanation at all, nothing.
Then he was around a new owner, and another new owner and another unti we met.
He grew dull inside. He says that all Humans want are his abillities and don't care about him, as a horse, as a living creature. Humans use him for 1 thing and then when they are finished with it, they dump him.
So I got home and started to do some research.
I know he was bought off the track at the age of 2 or 3. I know the person who bought him, so I contacted them. Asked allot of questions, but very little was given back.
All that I was told was that he, along with 10 others were bought and brought to the farm and then sold right away. I asked who bought him, and it was the name of a very reputable Hunter/Jumper in the area. So I called him.
He owned him for a few years, went A Circuit Hunter/Jumpers - but the only reason why he was bought was to make something out of him to make a profit in sale.
Who was he sold to? "The Girl". I searched for her last name and knew her location of residence since it was given to me by the Hunter/Jumper - so I found her number and called.
She wasn't living in Michigan anymore, but I got a hold of her parents and talked to them. They were very surprised to hear Nelson's name and asked me a ton of questions, while I tried to ask them a bunch of questoins.
Turns out, that "The Girl" did love him and used him for a few years. Boarded him at the barn he was first brought to when he came off the track. Her Parents said that "The Girl" would be out there everyday to be with Nelson, after school, weekends, holidays. She loved him and that is why it broke her heart when she had to go to college.
She never said goodbye to him, she just got on the plane and dissapeared from his life. The barn he was at, knew she wasn't around anymore - but her Parents were making payments on a monthly basis for his care, which turns out they didn't put that money into Nelson.
He ended up loosing allot of weight because he wasn't being fed, and he was not being ridden - so "The Girls" Parents decided to sell him.
He went to a very reputable Dressage Barn. Was there for a few years, and at this point he was very depressed. He was taken 3rd level and then sold for a profit....
And then he was bought by his previous owner *Before me* and used for 3 years with her...and then me.
So back to the start - he last lost faith in people. He is at a new barn now because the previous wasn't working out for either of us - and he has bonded with this mini pony named Angel. He loves her dearly, and she has bonded with him.
A friend showed me this video, that I wanted to share with you - my heart is broken to know what Nelson has had to go through, and I am trying very hard to prove to Nelson that he is my star, my one and only.
I told him that, but his response was "That's what "The Girl" said and look what happened"
So I am in between a rock and a hard place - stumped as to what to do to prove to Nelson. We've been together for 2 years already, and he said "You'll find a younger and prettier horse and dump me" which is what his Previous owner did to him. That is how he entered into my life because his previous owner bought a young horse off the track and put Nelson on the back burner...
Anyways - here's the vid. It really opened my eyes: