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        04-08-2013, 11:28 AM

    Hi everyone,
    The other day I rode my horse and she was really sweaty afterwards. I groomed her pretty well, but I was running short on time there was no hose availibile, and was unable to get all of the sweat out, needless to say my instructor saw and wasnt too happy. I feel really bad now, because I tend not to be a detailed person and I don't want it to look like I don't care. I do care, a lot actually, and I don't want it to seem like I don't. But All the time I feel like I am nervous around the barn. I love my instructor and the people at the barn, but I'm a really quiet person and I don't want to be the odd-person out who has to ask for things or does things wrong. I'm not a detailed person and this is a newer barn so I'm not quite sure how everything works yet. Long story short: I'm going to the barn today. I feel bad about dissappointing my instructor, even though I know he wont yell at me and that he's probably not all that mad. How do I get over this? Also, how can I be less timid around the barn?

    Thanks so much,
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        04-08-2013, 07:40 PM
    Just try to do the right thing and then accept yourself as you are. If you are cheerful and willing to work hard, you will fit in fine.
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        04-08-2013, 07:56 PM
    The only way I was able to get over my timid-ness (I used to be painfully shy and quiet) was just to decide that I didn't care what other folks said/thought about me, that I wanted to be true to myself and do the very best I was capable of. It took some time to get to the point where I could just walk up to someone and ask a question if I didn't know what to do, but I did eventually.

    Don't worry about your horse, being left a bit sweaty after a ride won't hurt him at all. The reason why horses roll after being turned out is because that's their way of "self-grooming".
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        04-08-2013, 08:00 PM
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    Just try to relax and be yourself. The trainer realizes you are timid, or should .
    If you have a question ask, there is a saying.. The only dumb question is the one not asked. Enjoy ! And remember.. just breathe. One deep breath in and out.
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        04-08-2013, 08:12 PM
    Youre just very willing to please-- nothing wrong with that. I've let horses out sweaty plenty of times-- its fine.. They don't need a rinse down every time anyway and sweaty hairs will just brush right out.

    When I was younger I felt like I had to walk on eggshells when a certain person was around the barn, because she freaked out on me every time I moved basically.. I stopped going to her for advice and I quit asking her for her opinion since she couldnt take into concideration that I was new to horses and I was going to make mistakes.. often.

    Luckily for me my aunt worked at that barn too. I just started asking her for help when I needed it, and I regained my confidence back. She didnt flip her wig when I messed somethin up-- she stayed calm laughed and calmly corrected me by showing me the right way then having me do it for myself.

    I would confide in the most understanding person at your barn-- or the one you feel most comfortable with.. even if it is the instructor. Don't ever be ashamed or afraid to ask any questions-- there is no dumb questions in the horse world.. you have to ask to know.
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