OK-well, many of you won't like this, but here goes.
Some very reputable Trainers in some disciplines (ie reining) start their horses at 2, which means January 1, not their actual birthday. I agree it is certainly NOT optimal, but it is not going to kill your filly. I will also say, that I personally would not allow this on my own personal horse, nor would I knowingly buy one that is started so early. ( unless of course you want high maintenance, joint injections, spongy hocks, etc....) WHat has been said here is very true. She will met likely be retired early, at the very least, since she is just not ready for that stress on her joints, but this may be where your trainer is coming from.
I would agree also that you should do lots of groundwork-work with the trainer even and get this filly SO ready to be broke, that when that day comes, it will be a piece of cake. You should also take the advise about the lessons. If you haven't ridden in years, you will find, as many of us do, that it sounds really good, but you may well not have the confidence you had when you were a teen, and the ground is much harder than it was those many years ago.
Good luck! Lets see some pictures!
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