What is your BO's "policy" (be it written or simply value-driven) on barn drama? Is she trustworthy to remain true to her word regarding the sort of people she will and will-not do business with?
I ask because if the BO is a committed "low-drama" type, my guess is they would not have taken on these new boarders without some references indicating the boarders are of the same or similar ilk. Even if no references were obtained, you seem to care for your BO & the environment there quite a lot. Given this, I can loosely extrapolate she is similar to you in terms of what sort of things are important in her direct environment.
My guess? These folks could be very nice people and prove to be a welcome addition to your time at the barn. They may still not have the best morality in the world when it comes to "borrowing" your things without asking. Unfortunately, stealing seems to be almost the norm these days...it's unbelievable, but that's another thread! If you value your possessions as most do and should (these items are not cheap!), I absolutely agree with those saying to put what you can into a heavy tack trunk and padlock it BEFORE they notice this is "new" & choose to be offended (even though they, too, likely have their items locked up! People are so funny!!).
I would absolutely be kind and friendly, helping them to acclimate, just as you might want for yourself from others at a new boarding facility...suss them out. Always stay true to your own personal sense of treating people (i.e. as you feel is appropriate), & give additional kindness and warmth to them as you learn whether they are deserving of such. If they turn out not to be, well, you've been cordial and pleasant, and you can go on being you, and only interact with them when necessary....
Certainly I suggest to hope for the best but prepare for the worst, and do not show too much of your "hand" until they have earned you're sharing of belongings, extra kindnesses (feeding for then if they take a weekend away, etc...) & you'll know when the time is right, of ever, to let down any walls! I certainly hope it works out well, and I'm opting to assume it could be an opportunity to make some nice, new horse-y friends! :0)
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