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post #11 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 12:13 PM
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Originally Posted by ladyfern View Post
I want this horse. But I don't want the risk of losing another horse.
You're continually going to face that risk unless you shut yourself up in a box and never venture into the outside world.

Loving another living thing always comes with the risk of loss. Life is fragile and can end at any time for any one of us. That doesn't mean we should shun what makes us happy and complete. To do that only means that you're already dead, even though you're still breathing.

I lost my heart horse five years ago. It was a very tragic and sudden death, and I was completely devastated emotionally. If I hadn't already had two other horses I may have taken a break, but I would have eventually gotten another horse, because for me they're a part of my life and I'm incomplete without them.

If you continually guard your heart you'll end up numb and out of touch with the world. We're meant to LIVE, not just exist.

My motto is, 'I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance.' I wouldn't have missed that 21 year dance with my heart horse for anything. The pain of his loss has been a hard price to pay, but even knowing now how hard it was to lose him, I'd still do it all over again if I had the chance.

Take a chance. Say yes to life and love.
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post #12 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 01:33 PM
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I've had horses for over 45 years,rarely sell one-have 2 now & am in the process of letting them go to a rescue, as my $$ resources are screaming at me that I can't keep them. My heart is breaking, but they deserve more, so I will do what I must. Sounds like you need a horse in your life-definetely go see the horse as good homes are really needed & shutting ourselves off from love is never a good thing. Life is a risk-enjoy it while you can.
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post #13 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 01:43 PM
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whats the saying???

"dont let the fear of losing keep you from playing the game."

it is THE HARDEST thing to lose a hooved friend. but if we all just threw down our cards every time we lost a friend...think of the horses out there that would NEVER find a loving home.

yall may be JUST the right people to love this horse. yall may be JUST what he needs. but if you dont take the risk, youll never know will you? he could end up being the best therapy for your family too to help them move on.

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post #14 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 02:52 PM
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Sounds like this horse may be able to help heal your hearts...the risks involved in love are always worth it...I say allow yourself to have this horse.

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post #15 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 03:23 PM
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I think we all have gone through losing a beloved horse. I've lost three of my favorite horses, two died in my arms, the other was killed by a tornado, and I had two rescues die from complications within a month of taking them in. There will always be problems, tornadoes, accidents, illness...
You could make a HUGE difference in a horses life. You can care for them, give the best home possible, make sure they are loved and don't slip through the cracks. Why not? At least you know they were loved before they could potentially pass for whatever reason. A MUCH better fate than many.
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post #16 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 03:49 PM
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When you go out and get a puppy you never think "I'll have this dog for 10/12/14 or more years and then it will either die or be PTS"

Having any animal means you have to realise that if you have livestock you sure as heck are going to have dead stock!

Go for it. Talk to your dad and tell him what your real feelings are.

In over 60 years of being around animals I have had many PTS or die. You either give up keeping animals or accept it happens. Life without them would be so dull. Give them a good life and a good death. They can ask for no more and will give you so much in return.
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post #17 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 06:08 PM
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I think it might be better to get the horse and continue to heal than pass and live with the regret.

I have lost so many treasures over the last 10 years. It never gets easier to lose one. I am just now at the point after having my heart and soul destroyed when my best buddy died where I can think about riding again. It has been a year and a half. I have tried and had major panic attacks, but now I think I can do it.(will let you know Thursday) It is so hard for me working with his little brother, because he looks JUST like my love, only black, bigger, and a little prettier, but those big melting eyes are the same and his shape is the same, an he has that same wonderful attitude. I am so scared to love him, but I am getting better.
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post #18 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 10:50 PM
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I am 54 years old and have had all kinds of animals in my life since I was 3. Each one has been special and wonderful, and each one has taken a piece of my soul when it left here or died. And over the years, many have died. Sometimes the pain from losing one can be almost enough to make me want to quit, especially over the very few "heart" animals I have had.

And yet, I find that even though I am missing pieces of my heart and soul, there seems to be enough left to love just one more of God's wonderful creatures. And even though there are ones that still hurt years after the loss, I wouldn't trade the years I have had with them and the memories for all the pain redemption in the world.

I guess its a choice of whether the relationship and love that you give and are given is worth the pain that you know will come, because generally you will outlive your beloved pet. Time and again I have answered that question with a yes, it has been and will be worth it.

As I grow older I may find I have less and less pieces of heart and soul that I can afford to lose, we'll see. Time will tell. For you now, go and love with all you have while you can, and treasure every moment!
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post #19 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 11:12 PM
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I've been very lucky as I have not yet experienced the loss of a horse. I know I will one day, it has to happen.

Two years ago I lost my dog. Devastated does not begin to describe the utter loss I felt. I still miss him every single day. I adopted another dog about 4 months after we put Oscar to sleep, and honestly it helped. I too was very nervous about going through that again. However I truly believe that the joy they give us is worth it.

I'd go through all the raw grief again to just have one more day with my Oscar. So the grief must be worth the time we get with them.
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post #20 of 22 Old 10-02-2012, 11:15 PM
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it is hard to lose one horse i had lost my first horse and had to find out the weekend before we were going to pick him up from aunts sisters house. then a year later we lost our 40+ TB gelding, and then my moms 12 year old clyd/QH 2 months later then 2 months after we put our year and 5 month old puppy down and less then a year after we lost our beloved dog for 15 years. i had gotten 2 new horses and 2 new dogs but i got a horse i loved his color his personality and now hes mine it was hard but my other horse was losong weight FAST and needed another horse. and if you think hes perfect you should try him out and maybe ask to try him for a weekend to see if your ready!
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