I don't have to have Donkey in with Tucker, but I thought he needed a friend? I have always heard they will get lonely if alone, but I don't want to encourage "dependancy" on her. So should I make him stay by himself instead of having a friend? We can take Donkey out and separate her for a while each day, she does great with our goats and we want her to be versatile in who she is compatible with anyway. She acted like she was going to kill the goats the first time we put her in there, she has since bonded with them and I want her to be able to go back and forth as needed. So daily separation would be great for everyone, maybe...
They don't need
to have a friend, they normally like to but it's not essential for them. Mitch is on his own (so to speak anyway) We have animals in the next paddock, and a miniature horse a few paddocks over, but he's not paddocked directly with any of them so while he still has company, he doesn't get attached to them.
Some horses behave better with company, some without. The main reason I have Mitch on his own is because with him being on his own in his own paddock, he see's me as a friend whether I'm riding him or not. I don't feed him treats or anything but he still walks up to me in the paddock (cantered up yesterday I was amazed) because he see's me as company. Bubbles is on her own completely up the road because she has... issues. If I paddock her with anyone she goes mental when you try to take them away. (eg tries jumping the fence and kicking down the gate and running through the fences) - which is scary to say the least. And it's also insanely hard to catch her if she is with others, and when I say insanely difficult I mean that to be able to catch her I have to set up a tape and reel and standards and make the area smaller and smaller until she's cornered and I am able to get near her.
Tucker probably won't be anywhere near that bad, bubbles is... "special". But if you can rotate his buddies or make him live without for a day or two every now and again he won't become so dependant.
We had a mare who was as bad as bubbles only because she lost a foal 12hours after it was born and the people didn't give her time to grieve, just took the foal away and buried it, so she thinks that every time someone leaves, they don't come back, she would scream around the paddock so badly her cover literally stuck to her from sweat and you had to peel it off. We just made a point of taking her cover off then bubbles away for a while, or going off down the road for a ride so she couldn't see her, and she eventually realised that bubbles was always coming back, so she got better and better as time went on.
I think the french link snaffle would be a better idea than the curb, especially for a beginner, a lot can go wrong in a curb with the wrong hands, I wouldn't even use a curb bit, not that any of my horses need one anyway. I am a firm believer that if you can't ride a horse in a snaffle you have a problem(with the exception of some shows etc, I mean if you can't generally
ride I a snaffle).
If he acts up with the french link he either may not like the bit, it could be the wrong size for him, or his teeth may need doing.
Eg bubbles, the brakeless horse of the century, goes in a rubber mullen mouth, which is a form of a snaffle, but she doesn't like the broken snaffles or steel. So her bit is just a rubber bar and uses tongue pressure. Mitch goes in whatever, he's pretty versatile. Sorry for the novel