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post #1 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 12:20 AM Thread Starter
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New mom, feeling guilty about riding...

So I've taken 90% of the past 16 months off to give birth to my son and stay home with him. My husband is in the military and we are currently living in a remote section of California, so my ability to get out for lessons and ride time has been severely limited. Anyways, we are getting ready to move in a few months to TN where I have been in touch with a fantastic, highly recommended instructor who operates a full service facility, which is exactly what I am looking for in order to get back into consistent riding. Problem is, I'm having this huge guilt trip now that I'm a mom...constantly asking myself if it's smart to willfully put myself back into inherently dangerous situations with horses, endurance riding, etc. Maybe my self-preservation mode has kicked in but it's like this internal fight with myself, wanting to get back out and pursue my favorite pastime but also not wanting to put myself in a situation where I could potentially get really hurt; I have this child now that I'm responsible for...

Anyone else go through this?
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post #2 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 12:40 AM
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I don't do any kind of riding that is especially dangerous, but I can truly appreciate your mental process. You DO have responsibility for this little being, so ou have to be more careful. Do what you can and leave the rest to God. What more can you do? Can you stop riding and stay sane?
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post #3 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 12:43 AM
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I totally went through this! My son is currently 18 months and I'm finally really "back in the saddle". It took quite a bit of retraining my brain and having a fantastic horse to ride. I eventually got over the getting hurt thing and am now loving riding again. I use it as my me time which I find very important with my husband being away so much for work.
Sounds like you found a great place and I say give it a go! I find riding is such a fantastic way to recharge my batteries and take on the day!
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post #4 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 12:49 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks ladies. My husband thinks we should get minis so I can get my horse fix without the inherent dangers of working with 1000lb+ animals (I know minis still pack a punch!). But he likes the idea of drive training and having the smaller ones for our son to learn how to safely handle and work with when he's a few years older...I have to admit I'm contemplating it!
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post #5 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 12:54 AM
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Oh man I love minis very versitile little buggers! I used to drive them a couple years ago me and my friends would go "mini off-roading" as we called it. Used to drive them everywhere! My neighbour has a large mini/small pony her granddaughters handle and are just learning to ride now.
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post #6 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 01:29 AM
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I raised 3 kids while riding my horses and being a working mom.
I do understand your fears, very much so.

I try to be careful, and in my situation, the pleasure I get from my horses keeps me a happier person.

A happy mom is a good mom. :)
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post #7 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 11:33 AM Thread Starter
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A happy mom is a good mom. :)

I couldn't agree more. I've never been the, live to ride type of person, just needed horses in my life in some aspect, whether it was companion only, or driving, it's easy for me to get my horse fix. We might look into minis since we now will have some land to keep them on.
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post #8 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 11:47 AM
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Absolutely! My son is 17 months old and I just bought a 16 hh very green paint. I'm not sure when I'll "risk" riding him, because I'm constantly thinking "what if something happened to me?" Good thing I have a good trainer!
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post #9 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 12:55 PM
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Steed, for sure, keep horses in your life in any shape and size. :)
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post #10 of 14 Old 10-24-2012, 01:09 PM
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I did try driving many years back-it can be dangerous also. My conclusioin was-I was safer on the back of the horse. You didn't say anything about your size, but most of my riding horses were 600-900 lbs& that was big enough for anything I wanted to do. I used to go on much longer rides, but nowadays can only get time for about 1-2 hours. That might hold true for you also, w/a little one. Not that you can't get hurt w/a smaller equine-riding is known to be risky, but the better rider you are, the less risk. If you're taking lessons don't let the instructor force you into something you don't want to do.

If you like trail riding, get the safest horse you can & try to go w/a good/safe partner & carry a cell. But only for you to call out-you need to keep alert when on the back of a horse. And thank you to your husband for his service.
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