I had a phone call from a friend a few weeks back asking if she could borrow my side reins. Not a problem say I, come on over, so she came and I lent her my dressage whip, side reins and a girth for a clinic she was going to.
Last week she says she is bringing the stuff back, except for the side reins, because she is waiting for her new pair to arrive. All was well until she had actually left, then I'm scratching my head wondering..
How come she has my number one best side reins, while she waits for her own pair to come, and I am using and old crappy pair...surely she should have the old pair, and I should have the good ones *scratches head* don't know how that happened.
I did do a good deed that backfired, but it wasn't me who suffered. I gave an old tumble dryer to a friend when we got a new one. The old one was only in her place a couple of weeks before it caught fire and burned her kitchen out
Sometimes... usually when I'm nice people don't take advantage of it because they know I can be a hard@$$ and do not appreciate being walked all over.
But sometimes it does happen where I say something and someone goes and takes it too far or I do something and it's perceived in the wrong way and it ends up going from a mole hill to a full blown mountain.
When I do things just because I don't expect anything.. but sometimes when I do something because I know it'll cause someone else hassle and they don't say thanks and get mad at me for not continuing it.. then I get sour.
There are good hearted people out there and then there are the moochers. Hard to tell the difference sometimes :/
Last year I took on a student from a large single income family. She was great and I loved having her. She had a couple of hold ups because of prior training but as soon as she got her confidence up she did awesome and took all around at the last show we went too (that year) riding my horse. Well her mom's a fellow horse person and they owned 4 horses at that time. She told her daughter after she did so well riding my horse that she was no longer allowed to ride at my place or ride my horses, oh wait did I mention that at this same show her mother decided to compete directly against her and every time her daughter placed above her she got madder and madder to the point she was yelling at the child at the show and I quote: "your not the ms fancy pants you think you are and its only cause your riding Magic you even won a ribbon." So I lost a good student but of course it didn't end there I then get a phone call asking to borrow one of my child saddles with the promise to return it in a week from the daughter. I have never got it back no matter how many times I ask for it (I think the mom sold it). And I got some crazy completely insane texts from that woman when she tried to sale one of my green and I mean green students a horse that liked to flip over backwards and take off on people, saying she thought they would be a good match for each other and who are you to stand in the way of that. Oh lets see Only her freakin trainer that's all. Now the whole thing makes me laugh but last fall I wasn't laughing at all. Sometimes you just have to wipe your hands shake your head and say 'whatever' no shame in cutting connections with crazy people. Besides they are too crazy to know what they did and the only person loosing sleep over it is you. Seriously why punish yourself. Fool me once shame on you, Fool me twice shame on me.