Join Date: May 2012
Location: Manitoba, Canada
A not-so-smooth ownership transition
I just bought a new mare, Cece. Cee will be the sixth horse I have bought in my lifetime. Every other horse the ownership transition went so smooth - they obviously cared about where the horses were going, asked me questions about my housing situation etc, but then once they were mine that was pretty much it. I keep in touch with the breeder I got my miniatures from but it's a very friendly relationship.
This new girl... oh geez. When we decided that yes, this was the horse to buy, we didn't have our own trailer and so needed to arrange transportation - they were ok with waiting a few weeks while we figured something out. Apparently. Then I started getting emails. At first, she said if Cece didn't work out, that I could return her minus the original deposit I had left. Then (only a day or two later) suddenly it was a final sale. Oh, and now, if I don't pick her up by a certain date they plan to re-list her. And here are a hundred links to web sites about basic horse care. (Um... I KNOW what thrush is. I KNOW it's important to keep up regular farrier care.)
At first I tried to be very polite. She had originally asked if she could come and visit Cece once after she was home (she is currently at a trainer's, she'll be coming home this weekend). Since she had asked before we officially sealed the deal, I feel I should honor the request even though it's not in any paperwork.
But then she sent me this HORRIBLE email yesterday, implying that I have no clue what I'm doing and basically I'm an idiot for taking the horse to a "Trainer" and how "Trainer" is a bad word to use and how every time you interact with your horse it's a "training" experience. Um sure, yeah, but the horse was completely green and I would rather have a professional (whom I have used before and trust completely) teach her the basics instead of my fumbling around. She sent me eight (EIGHT!!!) links to youtube videos of horses being loaded into trailers 'wrong' (being whipped, winched, terrified and beaten) and told me that when we had come to pick her up, she had gotten the distinct impression that it was all about speed and not the well-being of the horse (I had specifically told her we were NOT in a hurry and I wanted Cece loaded SAFELY, not QUICKLY). It was completely condescending and insulting.
I don't owe this girl any money and there was no 'repossession' type clause in the deal where she could take her back if she finds me 'unfit.' I really want to email her back and cancel the visit, and generally tell her off. I know she cares deeply about the horse's well being, and that's fine, but if she really thinks I'm capable of abusing her than she never should have sold me the horse in the first place. I tried being patient with her but that last email crossed a line, big time.
Anyway... I guess I'm just asking if a lot of you have gone through this type of thing before, and if you have any advice.