Originally Posted by Failbhe
Apparently my husband is (STRONGLY) of the opinion that we gave our word that she could come and see the horse. Sigh. Sounds like the appointment to see her will stand. But I will let her know on no uncertain terms that this is NOT an open door to drop by any time. I don't like the idea of this girl even knowing where we live. But Kev has a point I suppose.
OP-If your husband feels more strongly about respecting this ladies wishes than the way she has treated you-I would let HIM have all future dealings with her. Period. I am SO glad my DH has nothing to do with my horses. What I do with them and anyone associated with them is strictly MY doing.
I would not ever let her visit, nor would I want her to know where the horse is. Most people are fine. This lady has proven to you she is not. Guess I am a bit extra cautious because there is a hoarder case going on right now not too far from here. Lady had a bunch (72 to be exact) horses she could not care for. More $$ than god (trust fund baby) and when and if she ever parted with a horse-people who were the new owners would wake up to find her sleeping in their barn-randomly-everywhere around the country. I would not want that, nor would I want to have to worry about someone like this somehow deciding I was not caring for the horse as they thought I should and deciding to take it back....which also does happen.