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post #1 of 6 Old 07-18-2008, 08:36 PM Thread Starter
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not sure what to do...

Since Monday, Vega's been in heat. This is the worst heat i've seen her have ever! She sometimes isolated herself from the other horses, she'll try and run you over, she's very grumpy, agitated, can't stand still for more than 2 seconds.. the usual moody mare.

Since it's been 5 days, i thought i'd *try* and ride her and see if she'd be more willing to do anything. I was trying everything that i knew to get her to move and she wouldn't budge! I got so fed up that i would hop off and make her trot.. and go over the barrels... then when i'd get back on, she's pull the same stuff all over again. What did i expect though for getting off when she didn't listen.

But there was nothing i could do, unless i turned her head towards the gait, that would make her go forwards.

This just isn't fun anymore. I used to enjoy riding horses, enjoy everything about them.. and now, i see her and i'm like "ugh, i dont want to deal with you"

I would feel horrible if I sold her because Tom got her for me, and I'd feel like i'd be throwing part of us away.. if that makes any sense... but the other part of me is just not enjoying this, and when a horse and rider don't click, we won't ever. And we both get frustrated... but then we have the good days.

I did order the Mare Magic for her, so I'm giving that about a month to see how it affects her. If it makes her more manageable, i'll reconsider, but if i see no change in her, i'm going to think about selling her.

Aftering riding my BO's horse the other day, i really missed just being able to get on and just do whatever, without having to worry if he's going to spook at the tree, or the guy walking on the road. Should i send her off to training for a month if the Mare Magic doesn't work?

I'm just at a total loss of what to do. I went from 12 years of riding experience.. yeah i got some tough cases, but i never had to really train a horse. And i'm starting to think that i bit off a lot more than i can chew.

*sigh* i just dont know what the right move would be. Do i sell her now or do i wait? And then what kind of horse do i get next? should i get a finished horse, or one that needs a refresher.. or what?
Why does this have to be so difficult??
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post #2 of 6 Old 07-18-2008, 09:09 PM
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We've had several mares benefit from getting the injections and it was like they became a complete new horse. No heat issues or very little at all.

You might look into it and they last for a few months.
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post #3 of 6 Old 07-18-2008, 10:32 PM
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id say if the mare magic doesnt work you should have a talk with tom and either send her to the trainers (if your still willing to keep her) or if you want, talk to him about selling her and tell him that you and Vega just dont click and you prolly bit off more then you can chew. it sounds like you were doing great with vega up until she starting be a witch from being in heat but then again alot of mares turn into real you know whats when they get into heat. id give her a month and if nothing changes then id reconsider selling her or bring her to the trainers. she sounds like a wonderful horse for you but if your just not enjoying riding her then its no fun. trust me i know how it feels to not have fun riding. whenever i had to ride Ginger (which was not alot because i was afraid to ride her) i would get really scared and i wouldnt have any fun at all. if youve been riding for 12 years you have alot of expierence under your belt. if you were to get another horse id get a horse who maybe needs a refresher so you can still work with the horse. i hope everything works out. good luck

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when the vet comes out for Gem, i'll ask him about the injections.

I did talk to Tom about what's going on. He thinks, and i agree, that if she's being witchy, i have other horses to choose from, that i could ride/mess around with, until her heat is over.

It's not that i'm afraid of her or anything, but i always have to be on guard and i just can't go for a nice relaxing ride on her. Hopefully this Mare Magic will calm her down.. if not i'll look into the injections.
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Originally Posted by Solon
We've had several mares benefit from getting the injections and it was like they became a complete new horse. No heat issues or very little at all.

You might look into it and they last for a few months.
I agree. You said you have sent her over to your trainers already? I have never had to deal with a mare and heat issues like this. I would find sad if you sold her. It sounds like it's a lack of respect towards you on your mare's side. Thats what needs to get corrected and I think you working closely with a trainer thru those phases is what you guys need to do. You can correct it, no doubt about it, its just going to take A LOT of patience on your end and a gentle hand. You guys can do it. It sounds like you have gone thru a lot with her already so I know you 2 can pull it off.

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I haven't sent her off to a trainers already. The trainer was supposed to come to the barn this week, but didn't, so i need to call her and ask for her help.

I've seen mares get moody before, but i've never seen on refusing to do anything. I agree i have to get her respect more, i just need to find ways to do it. But i'll research that and come up with ideas.

I think once i start working with a trainer, things will come easier as i will have a helping hand, and someone can correct me when i do something wrong, rather than learning from a DVD, or just doing it by myself. I'll call her today and see what she says.
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