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post #1 of 15 Old 03-19-2013, 04:45 PM Thread Starter
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Angry Oh confidence, where have you gone?!?

Ugh! I don't know what happened! I just lost all confidence unless I'm in a western saddle! I mean, I used to jump almost 2 feet bareback (well, with a bareback pad) and last time I tried in a bareback pad, I freaked out and quickly changed! I mean, even if I think about jumping bareback anymore I freak out and I think "Wow, I really did that? What was I thinking?!?" I mean, it's not like I had any bad expiriences bareback or anything...Well, I tried to canter bareback and she threw me, but we weren't even jumping at the time! I don't understand what happened :( I really do want to jump bareback again...I just can't!

Oh! And I just got a new english saddle as a gift from my friend, and I thought I would use it 24/7 for jumping and all that...Nope! It's just going to waste. I tried riding in it once, and it was slippery because it was oiled up (thank you previous owners :P) and I could hardly trot without panicking, let alone jump. I tried riding in another english saddle before on her, and same thing! I couldn't do anything in it! And now I feel terrible because it's just sitting there, and like I said it was a gift! I mean, again, nothing bad has ever happened in an english, never thrown, nothing! I used to ride one of the spooky horses in a canter (and he has a fast canter!) on an english saddle, he'd spook, buck, anything and I stayed in fine...I just don't understand why I can't ride bareback or english on my horse! Ugh...It just makes me so mad at myself, I don't know what changed :(
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I have the same exact problem! I can run a barrel pattern easy peasy (well, with a little healthy fear) but put me in an English saddle and I won't even canter much. (I do have a very squirrelly horse though, and enjoy having a horn to grab just in case). I would suggest building up slowly, walk and trot in the English saddle until you're so comfortable and bored that your eyes could bleed, and then start challenging yourself. Rinse and repeat after that, moving up in challenging/scary things.
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Ugh! I don't know what happened! I just lost all confidence unless I'm in a western saddle! I mean, I used to jump almost 2 feet bareback (well, with a bareback pad) and last time I tried in a bareback pad, I freaked out and quickly changed! I mean, even if I think about jumping bareback anymore I freak out and I think "Wow, I really did that? What was I thinking?!?" I mean, it's not like I had any bad expiriences bareback or anything...Well, I tried to canter bareback and she threw me, but we weren't even jumping at the time! I don't understand what happened :( I really do want to jump bareback again...I just can't!

Oh! And I just got a new english saddle as a gift from my friend, and I thought I would use it 24/7 for jumping and all that...Nope! It's just going to waste. I tried riding in it once, and it was slippery because it was oiled up (thank you previous owners :P) and I could hardly trot without panicking, let alone jump. I tried riding in another english saddle before on her, and same thing! I couldn't do anything in it! And now I feel terrible because it's just sitting there, and like I said it was a gift! I mean, again, nothing bad has ever happened in an english, never thrown, nothing! I used to ride one of the spooky horses in a canter (and he has a fast canter!) on an english saddle, he'd spook, buck, anything and I stayed in fine...I just don't understand why I can't ride bareback or english on my horse! Ugh...It just makes me so mad at myself, I don't know what changed :(
My friend, RandysWifey, who happens to also be looking after my horse in the states... has gone through the same thing.. ESPECIALLY with English saddles. She's been riding western her entire life and Sky went English and only had one saddle that fit him. She's become so brave but she too started out not as confident as before. I'm very proud of her and she's happier too now with her riding :)

I'll point her to this thread. Don't give up OP. It will come back!

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Don't give up OP. It will come back!
I hope so! I hope soon...I really want to use the saddle because it is really nice!
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I have the same exact problem! I can run a barrel pattern easy peasy (well, with a little healthy fear) but put me in an English saddle and I won't even canter much. (I do have a very squirrelly horse though, and enjoy having a horn to grab just in case). I would suggest building up slowly, walk and trot in the English saddle until you're so comfortable and bored that your eyes could bleed, and then start challenging yourself. Rinse and repeat after that, moving up in challenging/scary things.
I honestly thought I was the only one! I have a pretty squirelly horse too, maybe thats why I'm so afraid...Hmm, all well, I'll try english today!
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i get on a horse and out comes the fear.. but i went down with a horse in a bad fall, saddly my horse had to be put down. I am getting back into horses because my kids. They see the opd pics of me and of what i did with horses and want to do it to. My 7 yr old was scared of everything but horses are building his confidence up and he has not an oz of fear in him when it comes to horses..yet :)
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LOL, different horses feel different in different saddles, and it can take a bit of getting used to. I have just started riding in my western again after ages in English saddles and I'm still getting used to that.

What I do with any horse, saddle combination that feels odd, talking English here, is use a grab strap. It clips onto the rings on the saddle where you clip a breast girth to, and just gives you the option of grabbing it the same as you would grab a horn. Since I made it, I very rarely use it, but it is nice to have it there.

One mare I thought I would never ride English, she just felt HORRIBLE, tried another saddle and she is great.!
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post #7 of 15 Old 03-19-2013, 05:13 PM Thread Starter
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use a grab strap. It clips onto the rings on the saddle where you clip a breast girth to, and just gives you the option of grabbing it the same as you would grab a horn
Wow, I've never heard of that! I need to look for some of those, it sounds pretty handy!
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like Maggie (Skyseternalangel) said I've gone through the exact same thing. I've taken lessons to try and get my confidence back and honestly nothing really helped except getting on a dead broke school master in all purpose and just dealing with it. It wasnt so bad! I wasn't so bad. and NOTHING happened. SO when I got on Sky again in the dressage saddle-nothing happened! Now I didnt start trotting right away nor did I give up riding the western entirely-I do 2 days in one, 2 days in the other (or try to anyway). The real hard stuff I leave for the days I ride western. And then once I have that pefected we switch to the dressage and work on it in that saddle. I've struggled with confidence issues for the past year, BUT I know that the horse feeds off of my fear and insecurities. When I'm nervous-he's nervous and we feed off of each other. If I saunter in and hope on that dressage and just walk around confidently it's a **** good ride. He doesnt know that inside I'm going "oh crap oh crap oh crap-should I trot? can I trot? what if I fall off????" If I feel confident that day we do some trotting, if not-we dont-and he isnt the wiser. work is work to horses-until you are comfortable, dont beat yourself up. big hugs!
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I agree with everyone else- It also helps, if possible, to just ride a totally dead broke horse every now and then.

Also, in addition to the grab strap, you can also put a large belt of piece of leather around the horses neck as a grab strap if really need it!

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You're getting older. :) It's called self-preservation.

I used to do tons of crazy things when I was in my tweens and early teens, then it seemed like things just switched. I was becoming worried over just simple things like cantering, my brain going through all the "what ifs".

Just take things slowly with a trust-worthy horse and I'm sure you'll be back to jumping in no time. :)
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