I haven't been on much lately. I've been incredibly busy with work, and my new dog, and some recent 'barn drama'. Argh.
I've been riding this pony for a year. A little over a year really. In February, I started leasing him.
The whole summer we've been working on getting him up to training level. Working on his canter. Making plans for next year's show season.
Well, I was unable to pay my October lease because I just got a new job and things have been rather slow. Then, I found out I may not be able to do November, because I need to pay to take my new dog (we found her on the side of the road, no collar, skittish of people) to the vet, and I don't know how much it will be. You know, she had to be priority at that point, and having just got this job, I won't have anything saved up for her yet.
All of a sudden, my trainer facebook messages me and tells me she is selling Jack. This is out of the blue...just a couple of weeks ago we were talking about moving up to training next year. She did not outright say it was because I was not leasing him for 2 months (I intended to lease him at least another year after that), but I felt like that might be it. She offers him to me. I told her that until I was certain this job was going to work out long term, I did not want to invest in buying a horse but we would see, and I asked how much she wanted.
$3,000. What? This is an 18 year old grade pony, partially blind in one eye, who has been to 3 shows in his life as far as we know. He's got potential, but he still needs some work to really reach that potential. He's a great pony, but the fact stands he is 18 years old, grade with a mediocre at best show record. I declined politely without insulting her on the price...but I mean, it blew my mind. Then I discovered his previous owner sold him to her for $800, and my trainer said to her 'he isn't worth a dime more'...he has not jumped $2,200 in value since he's been there a year. No way.
I decided to go back to my old barn. It's under some great new management now, and this lady has made that place nice. She's done pretty much everything I've been saying needed to be done since I left. It's a hunter barn, and I've decided to maybe do some hunters for a while on the side, while still keeping up on my dressage. A change of pace could be nice. My big reason for leaving my current barn has been the fact that it's a 40 minute drive, and if the pony is on the market, I don't want to continue pumping money into leasing him if I am not guaranteed to be able to show him next year. That's been my goal, and with it not there...well, I would be better spending my money elsewhere.
But I feel like she's gotten offended over all this, and I feel like I'm the one who should feel that way. I know I'm not the only student she's been unfair to lately...but I won't go into detail on it, it's none of my business what she does with her other students. I just feel like she's been a little curt with me. I had two rides left on him from September's lease (there was a flood at the end and I didn't ride), and on Wednesday it was like when I said something nice about him, how I'd miss him, her response a couple of times was "Well I don't know what to tell you"...well, you didn't have to tell me anything. I wasn't looking for any sort of answer...what's done is done, and I know he's an awesome little fellow, I know he's capable, but I still don't think he's worth what she asked. My reason for not buying him and not continuing to lease him had *nothing* to do with how I feel about having him as my mount.
I don't know...I feel taken aback here. Do I have the right to feel that way, or should I just shut it and move on? Which, I am going to do that anyway.
But I just don't want to be feeling offended here myself if I really have no reason to be. I know it was a mere lease, she did have the right to sell him, and I did skip out on a couple of months lease (although with fair reasons and no intention of dropping it permanently). But it was a month-by-month deal, and its like she's been dropping these little lines over facebook that feel like they're directed at me. For instance, I messaged her, let her know my first lesson at the other barn went well (she's told me before she has no problems with me seeing other trainers), and that it was funny how my muscle memory was SO built in for a dressage seat, that I looked like a sack of potatoes trying to sit in a more hunter style seat. Later, she didn't reply, but posted "It's so nice to be able to do hunter/jumpers as well as dressage! Gives some variety." Which, that message was the first time I had told her I was going to do hunters...she's never posted anything like that before, I'm 99% sure it was directed at me as if she thought I was leaving her ONLY to do hunters, and it was as if she were going "WELL, I do hunters too!" ...which is not the case. She's a great trainer. It's just...my big reason for being there was Jack, and I am not interested in any of her other horses, and I would not board a horse 40 minutes from me, so...I mean, I'd rather just go ahead and find something closer to me.
Anywho, I'm hoping to get my finances worked out nicely so I can afford the expenses of a horse with room to spare by Christmas or so. I don't think my trainer was trying to snatch Jack from under me, but this is the second lease that's gone bad in the past two years. It will be so nice to have the security of knowing that I *own* my mount and it can't be sold out from under me at any given time, and that I can take it where I wish and care for it how I feel it should be cared for.
My apologies for writing a small book. I just needed to vent. She's a great trainer, I just feel like things have fallen apart as of late! I feel like some misunderstandings have been had and communication has been poor.
I hope to still take lessons with her after I buy my next horse...