So, almost a week ago, I asked my dad about it. Immediately, he spouted every excuse he could find ("She works a lot", "She doesn't have a proper arena"...) before realizing I was not easily put off and ended with "Yeah, we can ask her". He said it in the tone of voice that I have come to learn means there's a very good chance that he will NOT actually ask her or even talk to her.
I don't like to nag him, because he gets irritated and angry when I do, so I haven't said a word since that night, hoping but not believing that if I gave him a few days, he might get around to it.
I asked him again tonight. I picked up the phone, turned to him and said: "What's [the trainer]'s number?" and he replied: "I have no idea......we'll get ahold of her (eventually)." Again, in the tone that means he is NOT going to get ahold of her.
I asked him to ask her first because she knows him and it would just be more suitable for him to talk to her. Now though, it seems I need to do it. After the conversation with dad tonight, I googled her name and in about 2 minutes had found her phone number. However, I have not yet told dad.
I don't know why he is so resistant to speaking to her. As far as I know, he is impressed by her and her work. He has never had a single bad thing to say about her to anyone. I had to stop taking lessons from a different instructor this summer as money would be an issue, but I am not even asking him to pay for me. I told him the first time I asked that I can pay for it. All he would have to do is trailer my horse over there, and he has never objected to trailering me anywhere. I don't see a reason, besides money (which I am covering) that he wouldn't want me to take lessons, least of all from her, so I don't know why he's procrastinating.
So now, I have her number and dad doesn't know. Dad is not going to talk to her, and I'm not eager to nag at him. I'm thinking that I am just going to go ahead and speak to her myself. I just don't know what to say. I don't think she'll remember me unless I tell her I'm dad's kid, and I don't know if she'd even remember the horse (who she sold to us 2 years ago).
It's probably unnecessary to ask, but what should I say to her when I call her? I was thinking: "Hi, ____, it's ____: ____ ____'s daughter, how are you?...[insert trainer's reply here]...I was just wondering if you gave riding lessons?" And then go from there. Does that sound alright? I'm terrible at speaking to strangers, let alone over the phone and one that I respect, admire and am intimidated by.
Should I tell dad I'm going to call her? I feel frustrated and confused that he is being so stubborn about this whole deal, and I don't know what his problem is. To be honest, I would rather we drive over there so I can talk to her face to face, but I don't want to pester dad about it.