I've had bad experiences on another forum also (not Fish, never heard of that one) and have had to grown a thicker skin since I started posting online. There is a difference between giving an opinion in a constructive manner about the area in question and quite another to pick at someone just because you can. The like feature on here does make it more friendly.
I originally posted a question asking what a certain term meant and it all just went downhill. The term backing is not common around here. When I started looking for someone to start my coming three yr old and one of the trainers replied via email that they only took backed horses I was a bit confused as to what that meant. I figured I would get a faster answer on the other forum than waiting days for another email from the trainer to clarify.
Someone jumped on the fact that my horse was almost three and I did not have a trainer lined up already. I told them that I wasn't in a hurry for him to be trained as I usually wait until they are mostly done growing before riding and this horse still had a significant amount of growing to do. They said that was no excuse and I was behind the game and would now have to rush to catch up. I appreciate that others have differing views on age to train but that was not my question and I didn't ask for an opinion on that subject.
He does basic groundwork but I just don't feel I have the level of experience necessary to start him under saddle as well as a professional and I only want him to have the best I can afford. Add to that I have a balance issue due to health reasons and those first few weeks can include stumbles etc as the horse gets used to a rider so it seems best to have someone else ride him until he is used to carrying a rider. That turned into a couple other people telling me that if I did all the groundwork on a horse I should be able to start riding it with no problems myself and if I couldn't do that then I wasn't a very good horseperson.
Of course there's no getting around the fact that some folks just like to argue but I'm getting better at ignoring them.