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        08-18-2013, 08:59 PM
      #1
    Weanling
    Other riders....

    I went out today with a couple of friends on a short, casual trail ride. We met up with 3 other riders about 1/2 way through the ride. The group I was riding with stopped to chat. One of the people I find extremely rude, offensive and abrasive. Anyway, I thought I would just keep my mouth shut and stand there with my horse quietly. The one woman starts shooting her mouth off like usual and then turns to me and says my horse is fat with a big head. Then proceeds to spout off about anything else negative that she has to say about our saddle pads, how we are handling the horses, etc.... rrrr not a good way to end our ride. She thinks she knows everything and that she is trainer, but she isn't and she is so rude. One part of me wanted to say something to her, but I know she can be a huge ***** and I didn't want to start something with her so I sat quietly and then just starting walking off by myself.
         
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        08-18-2013, 09:25 PM
      #2
    Green Broke
    I learned somethign about trail riding 2 years ago that changed my whole outlook and made my riding so much more enjoyable.
    A couple simple sentences.
    "Dont wait on me" and And "See ya back at camp"
    I hate waiting, and I also hate being rushed. So I basically never ride "with" other people. I don't understand the concept people have to be attached at the hip to go ride. I may ride out at the same time as others, I might keep the same pace, but then again I might drop back cause my horse is being a nut and we need to do figure 8's. I may also look behind me, ask "You got your horse?" then head out at a canter.
    Meet up at trail head, ride out when ever, get back when ever. But don't ecpect me to ride next to you all day. I might, but then again I might not. Not being rude I just don't want to deal with a nutcase horse getting wound up by the stop start stop start stop start crap people like to pull. Once I throw my leg in the saddle I am heading out. You can keep up or not.
    In your situation after a greeting or two I woulda just kept heading up the trail.
         
        08-18-2013, 09:31 PM
      #3
    Showing
    Don't trail ride with her ever again.. she doesn't deserve your awesome company.
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        08-18-2013, 09:41 PM
      #4
    Foal
    People never cease to amaze me, and not in a good way. I've never understood how someone can be rude just for the sake of being rude.
         
        08-18-2013, 10:02 PM
      #5
    Yearling
    I agree with Joe4d. I usually don't trail ride with other people. Having a green 3 year old, who doesn't really get on trails (mainly a show horse), can throw you many curve ball on a trail. I find that when I'm with myself and training, I do a lot better than when I'm holding up a line because I feel pressured. I also found that trail riding alone lessens the chances of a horse becoming herd bound to others.
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        08-18-2013, 10:45 PM
      #6
    Weanling
    Yeah I don't ride with her, we just met up on the trail, and the person I was riding with stopped to chat. Anyway, I have a coming 4 year old who got back from trainer a month ago and I'm putting as much trail hours on him as I can this summer. It just bothers me that some people feel the need to critique when not asked. Didn't like my saddle pad, and it went on and on. I love going out with a few people in my neighborhood who are very laid back and just enjoy getting out, so I'm lucky. I haven't felt brave enough yet to go out on my own even though Mocha will take the lead in the trails with encouragement. I have my older QH that I go out with on my own...I think one of those rides should be soon....no one to bother me.
         
        08-19-2013, 03:29 AM
      #7
    Banned
    People are amazing, and not in a good way.

    I used to work at a therapeutic riding barn for disabled people. There was something off with the weather, I don't recall what so we turned some horses out in the massive indoor with hay. We were cleaning up in there, and a man and a lady rode past and asked if we wanted to ride out with them. We explained, no we were working right now. They asked what we did, so we explained, she said 'oh I am so sorry, you have to work to be around horses, I've always had them'. Thanks lady, my horse is up the lane a bit, but you never asked, you just assumed. And then even so, what the heck!!!

    6 months later she was walking past my house, leading her horse from the ground. I sat there and twitched a while, what should I do. I finally decided to be the better person and I went to ask if she needed help, I have almost every item of tack in my attic. She said no thanks. Fine, I don't know what was going on, but you walk your horse home.
         
        08-19-2013, 09:18 AM
      #8
    Weanling
    When people get like that I just smile and think in my head opinions are like butt cracks everybody has one. Her opinion is just that hers its unfortunate she thinks she needs to share it. And that is why I ride alone.
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        08-19-2013, 11:32 AM
      #9
    Foal
    I never understand when someone is acting like that, why they aren't cut off with "I didn't ask for your opinion." and don't say anything else. If they reply "Well I..." reply again with "I didn't ask for your opinion." and don't say anything.

    Don't let people be rude to you. You enable them to but not stopping it. Stop enabling.
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        08-20-2013, 03:21 AM
      #10
    Yearling
    I hear ya! People are rude! I went over to an 'old horse friends' place to look at a possible horse to purchase. Keep in mind it's been YEARS since we've seen each other.....but to her apparently it doesn't matter because from the minute I stepped out of the car, she degraded me......I was playing Parelli, my boots were too wide, where was my breast collar? Oh my can't rode without one! Stirrups are different lengths ( yep, I have a serious leg length differential).....on and on and on......what is up with that? And I thought we were old friends? you would think if they are trying to sell you a horse they would treat you well.....not them! ugh!
         

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