Real friends are wonderful to have. Out of all of the people I know, I have two real friends. One girl, I haven't seen in about... oh heck, over six months. It was still warm when I saw her last, so fall of last year. I do not talk to her every day or even every week, but she I know without a doubt is my friend. It is a spectacular feeling. I too have trouble making and keeping friends.
When we are finally professionals in our chosen fields, I will do my very best to keep our friendship out of our business relationship. I will do my best to let her do her thing, on a professional level, because I love and respect her. I will help her with anything because she is my friend. Knowing her, she is not going to use and abuse me. I would probably let her get away with more than most, but if it came down to her trying to drown herself in a vat of stupidity, 1. I am going to try to stop it; 2. If that doesn't work, I am going to let her get burned and separate myself from the situation. I don't want to drown in someone else's stupidity, no matter how much I love them.
Oh goodness, I have watched many people I love flounder in pools of stupid. Most came out of it perfectly fine. Others just put on water wings and are still there.
This is not your ship to go down with. It is a difficult thing to go up to someone you love and tell them, hey you know I am here for you through pretty much anything, but I cannot be involved anymore. And then give the reasons why. If they don't love you enough to stop abusing your friendship, and to be more responsible, then they do not value you the way you do them. It is TOUGH. And you have to be strong enough to do it.
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