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post #11 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:13 PM
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Well, I think there's a difference between wanting to come see him, and wanting to come RIDE him. I would be uncomfortable with that too...

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post #12 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:27 PM
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I agree with Speed Racer. You have no obligation to let her see him again. Esp as she was wanting to ride?!?!? Someone had a great car analogy it is totally right on. I would definitely make sure that she doesn't still think that the horse is partially hers still... Kinda sounds like she does :/
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post #13 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:30 PM
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I don't blame you for not wanting her to come see him let alone ride him. Especially after looking at those hoof photos, she doesn't deserve to see him. Definitely subbing to your hoof thread to see how he progresses, the poor baby!

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post #14 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:37 PM
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I think it would have been more appropriate to ASK if it might be OK with you if she came out to SEE him...but ride him? That's just being rude!

I very much agree.

OP - What was her response to the hoof photos?
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post #15 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:44 PM Thread Starter
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Wow! That's pretty presumptious!

It's akin to "Thanks for the pics of my old car with the new paint job! I am moving home and would like to come out and drive it if that's alright."

I think it would have been more appropriate to ASK if it might be OK with you if she came out to SEE him...but ride him? That's just being rude!
I'm glad you think so too! I thought it was very rude, it made me feel like she didn't appreciate all that had happened. I hope she gets that I am trying to say - I'm saying it as nicely as possible - this is my horse now.
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post #16 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:47 PM Thread Starter
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OP - What was her response to the hoof photos?
That was it!! "Thanks so much for the pics and update." THANKS SO MUCH? How about, "oh my god, I'm so sorry he had to go through that" or "I feel so terrible" or... Something~! She barely reacted, I was very disappointed, but really what did I expect I guess.
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post #17 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:49 PM
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That was it!! "Thanks so much for the pics and update." THANKS SO MUCH? How about, "oh my god, I'm so sorry he had to go through that" or "I feel so terrible" or... Something~! She barely reacted, I was very disappointed, but really what did I expect I guess.
Kero, what you have to realize is that she thinks she did nothing wrong. Many people feel no remorse over neglect/abuse, and it's all about them. That's pretty obvious, considering she decided that she was going to come and ride YOUR horse.

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post #18 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 04:54 PM
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I have to agree with Daisy25 that the old owner is being presumptuous, but perhaps she doesn't have much in the way of social skills. Although she could be under the misapprehension that because she gave you the horse for 'free' (as though initial cost were the expensive part of horse ownership!), that she still maintains some sort of claim. It's a good thing you still have the emails, but hopefully she will email back and be understanding.

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post #19 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 05:07 PM
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I just checked out the before shots, shocking!! I would be furious she wants to use him for a pleasurable ride after failing so spectacularly to provide him adequate care for his needs!
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post #20 of 23 Old 08-04-2011, 05:45 PM
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When I bought Taj I did meet the previous owner when I rode him etcetc and I told her she was more then welcome to come and visit. She came once in 5 years but she never rode him but I let her two daughters ride him they had never been able to because he was had so much go but they got a few emails with pics and texts every now n then but I only did that because I knew that she dearly loved taj and he was well kept.

Where as bandits last owner was abusive to him and actually has said he would like to come out and see him. And being my brothers best mates little brother he knew the property. But I told him he was not to go out there while I wasnt there even if dad was there. I wont let anyone near my horses that I don't trust. It took me almost a year to right the wrong he did to the horse.

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