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post #1 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 06:47 AM Thread Starter
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Potential New Horsey.

I've debated posting this for the past week or so but I decided to. As some of you may know, just over two months ago now I lost my 'forever horse' Chinga. I was/am absolutely devastated and those who spoke to me would know I was 100% against getting another horse.

Until I thought of Chinga, when I got him he was in desperate need of someone to love him and I tried my absolute hardest to give him that. When he passed away, I cried for days, I still cry every night. No horse will ever come close to what I had with him, but why not try and give another horse some love?

I honestly don't know how I feel. Some days I decide its a great idea, a credit to Chinga, others I feel like I'm betraying him. Recently, a young mare for lease appeared in my Facebook newsfeeds. I had not even read the description, but something felt write about her. I can't say too much about her now, because I'm not sure what will happen and haven't even ridden her yet. But I've spoken to the lady in depth about it, she knows my situation with Chinga too and we both feel we would make a nice match. Instead of a new 'pet' or 'friend', I'm looking at her as a project. Something that will hopefully lead me to the next step.

I know I'm not in a state to buy, I don't know if I'll ever buy. I don't know if I'll even be able to hop on this horse. But I will try for Chinga.

Just a bit of, in some sort of way, exciting news I thought I'd share.
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post #2 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 06:59 AM
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Good luck!! Keep us posted.

Being horseless is the pits!!
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post #3 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 07:01 AM
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I am sorry about Chinga I can't imagine the day I lose one of my boys. Of course you need to take your time until you are ready for another horse.

I think it would be great for you to try another horse if you think you might be ready, whether you lease or buy. I'm glad you might have found a horse to test the waters with.

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along with our dogs Patch and Bear.
But I will always love you Jimmy R.I.P
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post #4 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 10:20 AM
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Just remember that Chinga is always in your heart and mind. Letting another horse make their own spot in your heart and mind takes nothing away from Chinga and in fact, can honor his memory because he was such a good match for you that you're willing to try another. The next horse won't replace Chinga, not in your heart, but will become a different partner on their own terms.

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post #5 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 10:51 AM
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^^^ I completely agree and dreamcatcher said it so well. Gone, never forgotten and impossible to replace. Enjoy your new adventure.
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post #6 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 10:52 AM
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I think that it would be a very fitting tribute to Chinga's memory to put to good use all of those lessons he taught you as you shared each others lives.

I was in a similar position last year when I lost my heart horse suddenly. Her passing left me with a young gelding companionless. I was very fond of him, but he wasn't Star. I felt empty, doubting if I even wanted to continue on with horses. I had to decide whether it would be best to sell him for both our sakes, or did I care about him enough to pick myself up and look for a friend for him. He was sad, I was sad. We stood out in the field together, me crying and him with his head in my arms. I just couldn't bring myself to part with him, but the last thing I wanted to do was look for another horse.

Well, as fate would have it I found a rescue pony for him. The little guy was very poorly and has taken some time to get right, but I'm so glad I took him in. The months of nursing him back to health gave me a focus. To see my two boys out playing together now brings me so much joy. Yes, I still shed the odd tear for the mare I lost (well, ok, sometimes I bawl my eyes out!), but I definitely made the right choice for me.

I wish you all the very best as you move forward from your past tragedy.
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post #7 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 02:43 PM
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I lost 3 very beloved horses freakishly over 15 years ago. I used to have to pull to the side of the road to let the tears flow. Since I've always considered myself a horsewoman, after a few months I did go horse shopping-I did have feelings of betrayals to the ones that were gone, & I had to catch myself from being angry that I had to re-train my new horses to have the responses that I was used to getting. I've had many horses since then now, and am on a new horse search & this time I will get exactly what I want-in my sixth decade I don't want to do a lot of training-I just want to enjoy. Horses truly are an addiction.
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post #8 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 03:28 PM
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Chinga remembers how you pulled him out of the dark; I'm sure he would want other horses to feel that from you, too. You're one of a kind Maddie, you have a touch with the horses that makes them want to be with you. I could see it in every photo and video of you and Chinga. I think it would be a great idea to honor his memory, and start a new chapter in your life with this mare. I'm certain you could help her, and she could help you too.

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post #9 of 29 Old 09-01-2013, 04:03 PM
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Maddie, how wonderful!!! You'll have to message me more details. We have talked about this before- You're a great young rider with a lot of potential.
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I've debated posting this for the past week or so but I decided to. As some of you may know, just over two months ago now I lost my 'forever horse' Chinga. I was/am absolutely devastated and those who spoke to me would know I was 100% against getting another horse.

Until I thought of Chinga, when I got him he was in desperate need of someone to love him and I tried my absolute hardest to give him that. When he passed away, I cried for days, I still cry every night. No horse will ever come close to what I had with him, but why not try and give another horse some love?

I honestly don't know how I feel. Some days I decide its a great idea, a credit to Chinga, others I feel like I'm betraying him. Recently, a young mare for lease appeared in my Facebook newsfeeds. I had not even read the description, but something felt write about her. I can't say too much about her now, because I'm not sure what will happen and haven't even ridden her yet. But I've spoken to the lady in depth about it, she knows my situation with Chinga too and we both feel we would make a nice match. Instead of a new 'pet' or 'friend', I'm looking at her as a project. Something that will hopefully lead me to the next step.

I know I'm not in a state to buy, I don't know if I'll ever buy. I don't know if I'll even be able to hop on this horse. But I will try for Chinga.

Just a bit of, in some sort of way, exciting news I thought I'd share.
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I think it's great news. I know last time we talked you were really upset about the idea of getting another horse, but I think for Chinga this would be amazing! would you have the option to buy this mare if the lease first works out? excited to hear more about it!
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