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post #1 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 08:46 AM Thread Starter
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Previous owner....UGH!***RANT**

So, almost 2 yrs ago I bought my QHX. He was a PMU rescue originally, and I am his 5 or 6th owner, at the ripe old age of 5. So he came with huge trust issues. Previous owners (last 2) are nice people for sure, and sold him for various reasons-the last being she wanted a gaited horse, and he was not. During the year she had him she put trail miles on him, which is great, but she did not have a ring, so he was never asked to do anything but follow another horse. He was never pushed, frankly. So, I get him, he goes to trainer "A" who is great, tends toward NH training, and he got him soft and working in a ring fairly well. Put a good base on him. I then brought him home, and went to a "Parelli" barn-I use the term loosely, since the guy is a great horsemen, but uses the name to attract customers....... We gained confidence and learned together all last winter.
My goal all along has been to "play" with some reining with this guy. He will never be a "derby" horse, but I want to be able to go to some local shows and have fun. I am not getting any younger, and the training seems to be taking forever. I have now found a true reining trainer (Trainer C) who has taken my horse and is doing great things with him, altho the progress is slow, since he is older.
Soooooo, I go to see him this week for the first time in 6 weeks. I take a video, which many of my friends up north are interested to see. I put it on FB. He really looks great. Anyway-last owner is now emailing me, messaging me, etc......because the trainer did not "reward" the good things the horse did. I try to explain that the release of pressure is his reward. She wants to see him pat the horse, since she has now learned John Lyons. Really? How about the NOTHING he knew when I bought him? All of a sudden she is an expert? She has NO clue about reining AT all, and now wants to try and tell me how this horse should be trained?
The horse is a Parelli LBI, which is REALLY hard to deal with, so he gets "stuck" when pushed. He really needs to get over himself, frankly, and learn that he can do what he wants for 23 hours a day. I only ask for one. She also needs to get that message LOUD AND CLEAR. I don't want to be rude to her at all, but I am getting annoyed. THe horse is not, and will never be even close to being abused.....he is not being asked anything he does not have the ability to do, and most of it he already knows!

Sorry for the vent......I really don't want to "unfriend" her, or get nasty, but I am about to. She just doesn't get it. I am about to tell her if she wants, she can buy him back-for about $5K more than I bought him for, since that is about what I have invested in training to this point. She keeps going on how she "loves" this horse-like I don't? I am the only one who has really invested anything including time in him, and not sold him off, like the 5 before me. I just want to scream at her "YOU SOLD HIM, REMEMBER?"

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post #2 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 09:12 AM
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Frank, just tell her exactly that. She SOLD the horse and he is no longer hers, so she has NO say in what does or doesn't happen to him.

Personally, I'd unfriend her from FB since she sounds like a PITA.
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post #3 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 09:19 AM
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I hope you're not impatient with the horse like you are this lady. When my horses "get stuck" then I back up to what he does well and maybe proceed by inches. It takes a little longer but the horse needs to understand. When he does he'll put it altogether, like connecting the dots.
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post #4 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 09:24 AM
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tell her to mind her own business.
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post #5 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 10:25 AM
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I agree, it's not her horse anymore.

And now on FB, with the recent changes you can "restrict" friends. This means you don't have to unfriend them, but they can be restricted in what they see.... and then you can pick and choose which things about the horse she sees and comments on.
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post #6 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 10:29 AM
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I'd just be nasty! That's what facebook is for!

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post #7 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 10:35 AM Thread Starter
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I hope you're not impatient with the horse like you are this lady. When my horses "get stuck" then I back up to what he does well and maybe proceed by inches. It takes a little longer but the horse needs to understand. When he does he'll put it altogether, like connecting the dots.
Hmm. I really think that after almost 2 years working with him, trying all different things, and, yes, making SOME progress, being all "NH " about it......I have been patient enough. I am tired of having to think about his being an LBI and trying to figure out how to make him want to do what I am asking. I am sorry if it seems impatient to you, but it is time he starts to try to figure out what I want just for that hour a day. It is nothing he doesn't know. He is a bit stubborn and lazy.

My dad trained QH's long ago, and there have been times in the past year and a half I could sense him rolling his eyes at me from the grave.....time to go back to what has worked for many years. Good old horsemanship.

Cinny-Yes, I am figuring that out, and next time I want to post a video, I will choose who I send it to. She will not be on the list, unless there is patting of the horse involved.

Lol Kevin!

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post #8 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 10:38 AM
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No kidding why be "friends " with someone you don't like or annoys you ? Why be polite to someone that isnt to you ? Life is short, surrond yourself with people that bring you joy, refuse to tolerate those that don't.
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I hope you're not impatient with the horse like you are this lady. When my horses "get stuck" then I back up to what he does well and maybe proceed by inches. It takes a little longer but the horse needs to understand. When he does he'll put it altogether, like connecting the dots.
Huh?? Did you actually read his post?

Anyway, previous owners can be... Interesting. I get most frustrated when I get them home and I'm trying to halter break or teach one to pick up feet that is five or six. I still have two that detest my farrier.
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post #10 of 17 Old 12-04-2011, 10:51 AM
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"The horse is a Parelli LBI, which is REALLY hard to deal with..."

Had to look that up.

"In Parelli lingo, a lazy horse is usually a “Left-Brain Introvert”...This type of horse thinks humans are downright boring."

Sounds like the kind of horse who needs to learn that 'boring' is more fun than eating chili:



'Course, I'm not a knowledgeable & well paid horse trainer...

And sometimes a FB 'friend' could use a bit of chili, too!
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