previous owner wont come to visit her horse

Oct.2008 I bought Kalypso from a soon to be college student. At the time of the sale,she was very sad to see her horse go. She lives in Nj and im in Ny. So the drive was far for her. I told her that she is welcome to come over and ride him any time she wants.

So the following year she came up with her dad to come and ride kalypso. It was alot of fun to watch her ride my new horse.

Then in 2010 she came up on her own and rode him again. Then I rode him and she helped me out with riding him.

Then in 2011 she came up with her boyfriend. This time she gave the bf a pony ride on kalypso. It was kinda funny to watch.

So this summer I emailed the girl and asked if she was free to come up and ride kalypso. She said no because she has summer classes(she goes to school in SC). But lately I've seen her fb posts and they are not school related. She posts stuff about going out to the beach with the bf and a bunch of other stuff. So im really wondering if she is going to school or not.

Anyways....I am sad that she doesnt want to come up to ny to visit her horse. I keep hinting to her about coming over and she keeps saying no. :(

The girl sold her other horse last month and he's in the same area of the girl so she can visit him anytime. So I would think she would want to visit her first horse too.

Maybe its me because im a shy/quiet person?

When you buy a horse from someone....do you invite that person to your barn so they can visit the horse they sold to you?

I invited the girl who looked after Brock when I bought him - she was very happy to see him - but his previous owner is in the same city as me and isn't interested. I'd always be up for visiting an old equine friend.
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You know... I sold my horse to a lady in Washington and never heard about her again. It still makes me upset when I think about her, but that's the chance I took for selling her.
I think the previous owner has just moved on. She did decide to sell her horse after all.

She sold the horse....it's very possible that she has no interest in him anymore, so no need to get upset or push her to come visit. I'm good friends with both Molly and Excel's owners and we ride together often, but sellers shouldn't feel obligated to check up on and visit horses they've sold.

I, also, think she has moved on (at an emotional level). I'm sure she has seen that her former horse is in a good place and so she can go forward now with her life. With two of the horses I bought (as circumstances were right), I offered the previous owners the opportunity to drop by -- so far one phoned me a few months after the sale to see how the mare was doing and the other person I have not heard from and do not expect to now (and that's OK too).

I don't invite former owners to come ride the horses they have sold to me unless we are friends. If the contract includes welfare checks then, they are welcome to come out with an appointment. Mostly I don't want them messing with the hours of training I have put into the horse, or the horse picking up old bad habits from the interaction. That is just my personal opinion on it.

Are you having a training issue with the horse? I can understand why you would want her to come ride and show you how to correct it or what she did if that is the case. If that is not the case I don't understand why you would be upset with her for not wanting to make the long drive to see her former horse. I haven't really seen a lot of people who sell their horses then go and visit and ride them.

No I bought my paint gelding and this lady babyed him (caused problems for me and had to send to a trainer) I post pics on FB but that's it she never asks about him or anything. I figured I bought him and I don't like when people ride my horses as they all have to be ridden in different ways and it would take a long while to get them to do it right.

I'm impressed that she came to visit him for so many years. I think the others are right that she's moved on emotionally and is satisfied that her horse has found a good home.

I bought my first horse just a few months ago. It was a bit of a strange situation in that the horse had an owner for ~4 years who was forced to sell him back to the breeder due to financial problems. The breeder put me in touch with the former owner, who clearly had a very strong bond with him. I did offer that should could come and visit him, and I genuinely mean it, but I'm more than 3 hours from her, so I don't know if she ever will.

I am surprised she visited at all. Most of the time the whole "come anytime" as well as they "I will come visit" is nothing but lip service. She is busy, in school and has a life right now that most likely does not allow a alot of time to visit YOUR horse (she did, after all, sell it). What I don't get is why this bothers you so much? Move on. She did.

I don't know if I could go see my horse if I sold it. It would personally be too hard for me.