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        04-11-2013, 07:49 PM
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    Weanling
    Problems getting a first horse!

    I know I have posted about this before with possible horses that I was considering about asking my parents about. Well I've run into a problem. My parents keep telling me that 'I'm not ready enough' and 'I don't know how much effort it takes to keep a horse.' But the thing is that they have never owned horses and aren't horse people. I've volunteered at a ranch for a year and a half and am now a novice rider and I can groom, saddle, dicipline and w/t/c with no problem and I am now focusing on using my seat more to slow down, steer and riding the entire horse and not just what you see ahead of you. I want to talk to the BO about getting a first horse but I'm afraid of upsetting my parents by not talking to them first. It's just such a confusing point in my life. I'm 16, getting a job and I'm ready to start making some decisions. And it's not really a monetary reason why they won't let me get a horse, they got my 3 brothers a mini sailboat to learn to sail with, well I want a horse to learn to train and have a lifelong friendship with. Sorry if this is sort of rambling and confusing. Thanks for your time and help if you respond to this!

    -Lu
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        04-11-2013, 08:20 PM
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    Sailboats are inanimate objects. They maintenance and costs associated "make sense" to non-horsey people.

    My parents always had a reason for not buying a horse too. First it was, wait until dad retires (he was military) then it was, Get your grades up, get a job, etc...

    I ended up buying my own horse when I was 16.
         
        04-11-2013, 08:33 PM
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    Foal
    First question, have you parents seen you working at the facility?
    Next, I would type up a proposal. Research the cost of feed, vet visits, farrier, supplies, board, etc. Break it all down for them on how you plan on paying for it all. Make phone calls if you have to and get pricing qoutes. Figure up a good amount to put aside for an emergency, cause trust me, they happen. Get a letter from the BO about how reliable you are, your skills, etc. Set up a time line with dates of when you would like to have stuff done by, such as in 2 months have $1000 saved for emergency. As a parent, I am more impressed with my children when they bring a me a well thoughtout plan then when they are just "whining" about how they want this or that. If you do this, hopefully, you parents will realize that you have thought about every aspect of horse ownership and be more willing to work with you. Let me know how it all works out. I actually did this with my mom when I was 14 and wanted my own dog and she didn't want me to get one cause I already had a horse. Once I showed her that I was willing to accept all financial responsibility, called vets about pricing, etc, she was impressed and let me get my own dog. Later, when I got married and wanted to take her with me, my mom refused to let her go cause she had fallen in love with her too.
         
        04-11-2013, 08:43 PM
      #4
    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by dlpark2    
    First question, have you parents seen you working at the facility?
    Next, I would type up a proposal. Research the cost of feed, vet visits, farrier, supplies, board, etc. Break it all down for them on how you plan on paying for it all. Make phone calls if you have to and get pricing qoutes. Figure up a good amount to put aside for an emergency, cause trust me, they happen. Get a letter from the BO about how reliable you are, your skills, etc. Set up a time line with dates of when you would like to have stuff done by, such as in 2 months have $1000 saved for emergency. As a parent, I am more impressed with my children when they bring a me a well thoughtout plan then when they are just "whining" about how they want this or that. If you do this, hopefully, you parents will realize that you have thought about every aspect of horse ownership and be more willing to work with you. Let me know how it all works out. I actually did this with my mom when I was 14 and wanted my own dog and she didn't want me to get one cause I already had a horse. Once I showed her that I was willing to accept all financial responsibility, called vets about pricing, etc, she was impressed and let me get my own dog. Later, when I got married and wanted to take her with me, my mom refused to let her go cause she had fallen in love with her too.
    Yes, they drop me off there (it's right down the road and when and if I get a horse I would most likely board him there) and I brought my mom on a trail ride there but they don't really see how much effort and time and blood sweat and tears I put into this. I get there at 7 a.m and stay intill 5 p.m and we ride around 6 hours depending on how many rides are booked. Thank you, that Is a very good idea! That would help convince my dad too. I will talk to the BO on Saturday about getting a horse too and about boarding (I'm hoping that I can board for free or at least have a discount because I AM a volunteer and do help out a lot.) and I would be able to see my horse every afternoon because the barn is so close. Thanks so much for your advice :)
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        04-11-2013, 08:45 PM
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    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by farmpony84    
    Sailboats are inanimate objects. They maintenance and costs associated "make sense" to non-horsey people.

    My parents always had a reason for not buying a horse too. First it was, wait until dad retires (he was military) then it was, Get your grades up, get a job, etc...

    I ended up buying my own horse when I was 16.
    Yeah my dad wanted an exact cost for keeping a horse but each horse is different and things change. And my dad was in the military too. But so far I've done everything right regarding grades ect... I also am getting a job.
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        04-11-2013, 08:48 PM
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    Foal
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    Originally Posted by LouieThePalomino    
    Yeah my dad wanted an exact cost for keeping a horse but each horse is different and things change. And my dad was in the military too. But so far I've done everything right regarding grades ect... I also am getting a job.
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    With your dad being a military man, it should really help convince him. My husband was in the military and they like structure and reports.
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        04-11-2013, 08:51 PM
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    Foal
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    Originally Posted by LouieThePalomino    
    Yes, they drop me off there (it's right down the road and when and if I get a horse I would most likely board him there) and I brought my mom on a trail ride there but they don't really see how much effort and time and blood sweat and tears I put into this. I get there at 7 a.m and stay intill 5 p.m and we ride around 6 hours depending on how many rides are booked. Thank you, that Is a very good idea! That would help convince my dad too. I will talk to the BO on Saturday about getting a horse too and about boarding (I'm hoping that I can board for free or at least have a discount because I AM a volunteer and do help out a lot.) and I would be able to see my horse every afternoon because the barn is so close. Thanks so much for your advice :)
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    Please keep me updated. I really don't know how I would of survived my teenage years without my dear Nimare or my dog Abbie. We were like the three musketeers. I didn't buy my horse though, I was a daddy's little girl and as soon as I said I wanted a horse, he got me one, without my mom knowing. She hated him for that!
         
        04-11-2013, 08:56 PM
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    Weanling
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    Originally Posted by dlpark2    
    Please keep me updated. I really don't know how I would of survived my teenage years without my dear Nimare or my dog Abbie. We were like the three musketeers. I didn't buy my horse though, I was a daddy's little girl and as soon as I said I wanted a horse, he got me one, without my mom knowing. She hated him for that!
    Ok :)
    I wish my dad was like that but unfortunately I have 3 brothers who are more favorable so yeah lol.
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        04-11-2013, 09:01 PM
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    Weanling
    And one more thing to add to this problem, my parents said to me to it buy a horse without talking to them first even though I do have money. And they always say, what's the point in ahving a horse? The BO has 30, ride them and pretend that they're yours. Or they would joke and say get a motorcycle, they don't eat. But it costs more to fill up your truck than how much a bag of feed costs. I just get so upset that they don't understand that a horse is more than just a lawn ornament.
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        04-11-2013, 09:10 PM
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    Foal
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    Originally Posted by LouieThePalomino    
    Ok :)
    I wish my dad was like that but unfortunately I have 3 brothers who are more favorable so yeah lol.
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    I know how that is my older half brothers dad was killed before he was born (my mom was 8 month pregnant) and he got everything he wanted from my mom, but he did get along with my dad, so I was daddy's little girl.
         

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