littrella, I think that it takes a lot of courage to be a guy and ride english. We had ONE boy in my Pony Club in all the years I was a member, and he got a lot of flak from a lot of people, but man could he ride. Makes me wonder how there are so many guys at the top of the sport, yet I see so few starting out. Where do they come from lol. As important as family is, it is far more important that your child is safe, happy, and treated right. It sounds like no matter what you do, the gparents are ALWAYS going to find something that is wrong. I agree with dbarabians that you need to look out for your child first, and if that means no more visits with gparents, or certain subjects being completely off topic, and sticking with it, then your child will be better for it. I would honestly have a sit down heart to heart with your husband, and explain that you both need to be on the same page, that you both need to stand up for your son. Explain to your husband that its not "him" who's "defying" Dad, its his SON who he's DEFENDING and PROTECTING from Dad, and maybe that will help him see what's happening, and stand up to his Dad. He's not doing it for himself, he's doing it for his son. I am glad that you are both so supportive of his riding, and him doing what he wants to do, now you have to work at keeping it positive, and while you can't always protect him from anyone and everyone who would poke fun at his choices, and you don't necessarily want to put him in a bubble, when it's coming from an elder that he looks up to, and who should be supporting him, and isn't, things have to change. I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this, and that you have to keep making tough choices, but keep thinking of your son, and keeping him safe. Kudos to your kid for doing what he loves regardless of what others think! I know he's probably too old now, but give him a big hug for me.